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Abortion/Reproductive Health Access Resource in California
I saw your last post signal boosting the Abortion Assistance Blog and I just wanted to let you and your followers know about an organization I work for in the Bay Area that does similar work. We are called ACCESS Women’s Health Justice and we help women with any and every aspect of attaining proper health care. We have a healthline women can call and we mainly work with women who need help making appointments for abortions, figuring out medicare/medical, and providing transportation and housing for those who need it. Hopefully we will have our own Tumblr up and running soon, but until then, if you could let your followers know about our Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/accesswhj?ref=ts&fref=ts) that would be awesome!
Sorry for the long message! Stay awesome :)
FYSE: Awesome! Definitely signal boosting. Any time if followers have any organizations like this one they’d like to submit let me know. It’s always great to learn about different resources available.
*not everyone in need of an abortion identifies as women.
I think a lot of problems that people come across in their sex lives have to do with the lack of breadth of what they’ve learned about sexuality. Detailed sex ed that I’ve encountered elsewhere is great, but it also tries to be exact about what happens in a certain situation, rather than emphasizing that ‘everyone is different’. I’ve seen so many posts, here and elsewhere, from people saying they ‘can’t get wet’, ‘can’t orgasm’, ‘can’t have multiple orgasms’, etc. Because folks learn that some people can have multiple orgasms, or feel pleasure from XYZ thing, they tend to think that that is everyone’s experience- so if it is not theirs, it’s a pathology. It helped ruin my last physical relationship that I was the only partner out of 7 that my partner had dated that didn’t orgasm, squirt, like the same fetishes or have the same concept of sexuality. He knew all about their kind of sexuality from his reading, but not that others could be different. If only he had instead learned that everyone is different, and that’s normal! And not in a superficial sort of way, but a manner in which differences are freely discussed and truly emphasized as good things. I wish we were more tolerant of other people’s different experiences.
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Submission: IUD Review
Total Cost of Procedure: 70 cents (thanks to a wonderful healthcare system and great medical benefits, all prescriptions only cost me 35 cents each, and the insertion process was free).
I am writing this for all the ladies who, like me, research and review every little detail about their medical procedures. Do not be misinformed. There are worse things in life than getting an IUD inserted. So about 3 weeks ago, I was super excited to be approved to get an IUD.
For those of you who don’t know, an IUD is an Intrauterine Device used for birth control. The particular device I chose, is called Mirena. This will protect me against unwanted pregnancy for the next 5 years. For more information about Mirena, you can visit: http://www.mirena-us.com/index.php
I did myself a horrible ‘favor’ by researching and reading all sorts of reviews about the insertion of this ‘T’ shaped contraceptive, with complete disregard to the fact that the most popular reviews were, of course, horror stories. I’m not saying they were made up or over exaggerated, because I understand everyone has a different pain threshold, but I was prepared for agonizing pain, when in reality I left with uncomfortable, but very bearable cramps.
I vaginally inserted 2 Misoprostol tablets the night prior to my insertion to soften my cervix. An hour before my appointment, I orally took 600mg of ibuprofen. I then went to my family doctor, who first performed a pregnancy test (just to be sure) and an internal examination to figure out which way my uterus was facing. He told me mine was backwards, but that it wouldn’t make the insertion process anymore difficult. He then sterilized all equipment, my vagina, cervix and uterus (this felt the same as any pap-smear). He then had to measure the depth of my uterus. In order to do this he had to clamp my cervix (the slightest pinch, it was more discomfort than pain), then insert a thin metal rod. Think of a very bad period cramp, this is how that felt. Next came the actual insertion of the IUD, which felt exactly the same as the measuring process. I had pretty bad cramps for all of two minutes, and next thing you know, he’s trimming the strings, removing the instruments, and leaving me feeling relieved.
I am writing this not even an hour after having it inserted, and I feel just fine. Again, slight period-like cramps and some very minor bleeding, but nothing like the horrid, agonizing reviews I read just yesterday. For me, this was the perfect choice and I am at complete peace of mind, enough so that I will be heading to work in 3 hours!
All in all, prepare for a crampy day, but do not let all these painful experience reviews scare you away from a perfectly safe contraception form. It is well worth it!
College Blocks Speech By Gay Porn Star
Hi! This is something thats going on at my college right now. The members of the lgbtq group I’m in are trying to spread this around as much as possible and I love this blog and though it would be a good idea to send it to you! We really want people to get wind of this and try to show that porn isn’t bad, its just misunderstood sometimes.
So I wrote to all Arkansas Senators, and this is one of the responses I got
I love the thinly veiled contempt he holds for my words. Can you spread this around so Arkansas residents know how unwilling to communicate about legislation that affects them he is?
Yeah, I got a similarly disappointing response (BY THE SAME SENATOR!) right after Beebe’s Veto of the 20 week bill:
Basically Senator Clark not only thinks it’s okay to make light of the fact that abortion is sometimes the only viable option for people with chronic conditions but also thinks that his constituents want him to vote this way and that “the most vocal are women”. I’d like to see these vocal constituents, as the only ones I know of are urging him not to vote this way.
*Edit: Since my screencap is so small and I can’t get it to be any clearer this is what was said:
1.) Most of the fatal fetal anomalies like skeletal displasias, malformed diaphragms, Edward’s syndrome, Anencephaly, and Patau’s syndrome are detected after 20 weeks. Forcing women to carry nonviable fetuses to term is cruel psychological trauma for women who have to tell well-meaning people in the bank and supermarket that the baby is not viable and yet she must carry it to term. Can you imagine having this conversation everyday around your town? Can you imagine your children or your daughters-in-law being forced to have this conversation with well-meaning strangers? It is an undue burden.
2.) The bill will be challenged in court since it is patently unconstitutional, which will be an astronomical cost for Arkansans, as Governor Beebe pointed out yesterday. In a climate where fiscal responsibility is an important consideration, this is an undue cost for Arkansas taxpayers.
3.) While you may personally disagree with the medical practice, women who get abortions at 20 weeks or beyond really want their children but the medical complications threaten the fetus or the mother.
Everyone wants to reduce the number of abortions in the state but we do that with comprehensive sex education and contraception. The data is clear that more stringent abortion legislation leads to an increase in the number of abortions and those abortions are extremely unsafe.
Thank you for your time and for serving all of the people in the state.
1. The bill was amended to take into account the very issues you brought up.
2. There is every reason based on recent court decisions to believe the bill is constitutional The Attorney General budget will be the same with or without this bill.
3. Was answered in #1
4. My constituents sent me here to vote for this bill. The most vocal are women.
5. I agree with them.