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Based on the results from the survey I did asking y’all what forms of contraception and birth control you wanted to learn more about and what forms you feel like you know the most about, here’s the order that I’m going to be doing posts:
At some point while doing these posts I’m thinking I’m going to make some quizzes to go along with them to test everyone on what they know about each form. I’m interested in comparing it to the results of the survey question asking what form people felt like they new the most about to see how they relate. Also hopefully it’ll do some myth busting.
Out of curiosity I wanted to see what type of Birth Control/Contraceptives people were most wanting to learn about. Let me know which ones you’re most interested in. No cheating and picking all of them, pick only your top 3 if you have more than one please.
There are only two questions, one is which one do you want to learn more about, the other is which one do you know about the best. This is to compare the two, help me figure out what order I want to do my birth control posts, and also I’m thinking of starting making sex education quizzes to test your knowledge and I’d like to compare what people think they know most about and what people actually know most about.
Ten Alternative Uses For Condoms
Also for educational purposes! I think it would be really great if we had some sort of network for expired condoms to go to sex educators so that we could use them for displays, how-to lessons, and to help students to practice getting used to condoms without using up our supply of condoms that could be used to protect our students.
If you ever have expired condoms send them my way!
P.S. expired condoms also work really well to use with low quality toys. Because you don’t have to worry about pregnancy you can use them to cover those bad babies up and prevent infection.
Because I’m a frequent volunteer for Planned Parenthood my supervisor gave me a pack of cards produced by Guttmacher called “Are You in the Know?”. It has facts about Contraception, Pregnancy, Teens, and Abortion.
Here are the facts on the cards, I removed all gendering language:
More than 208 million pregnancies occur annually worldwide; 185 million occur in the developing world alone. More than 40% of all pregnancies are unintended.
Upon women surveyed, typically they want two children. This means that they’ll spend about five years pregnant, postpartum, or trying to become pregnant, and roughly three decades trying to avoid pregnancy.
Premarital sex is very common and has been for decades. Even among U.S. citizens born in the 1940s, nearly nine in 10 had sex before marriage. Currently, 95% of Americans have had premarital sex by age 44.
On average, Americans have sex for the first time at age 17
Comprehensive sex ed, which includes information on both contraception and abstinence, often results in delayed sexual activity, lower frequency of sex and fewer sexual partners. It can also increase contraceptive use and reduce risky sexual behaviors. Receiving comprehensive sex ed does not lead teens to have sex earlier.
Worldwide, half of all teen births each year occur in just seven countries: Bangladesh, Brazil, the Democratic Republic of the Congo, Ethiopia, India, Nigeria and the United States.
Among unmarried sexually active teens who want to avoid pregnancy, almost seven out of teen in South Central and Southeast Asia and in Sub-Saharan Africa, and almost half in Latin America and the Caribbean, do not use modern contraceptive methods. They do not have sufficient access to contraceptives.
There are about 70 pregnancies for every 1,000 teens able to get pregnant. However, when only considering those teens who have ever had sex, the pregnancy rate is much higher, about 150 per 1,000
78% of teens Designated Female at Birth and 85% of teens Designated Male at Birth practiced contraception their first time. The external condom is the most commonly used method at first sex.
Those with family incomes below the federal poverty level (about 18,500 for a family of three) account for more than 40% of all abortions.
More than half of those obtaining abortions are in their 20s.
Complications from unsafe abortion account for 13% of maternal deaths worldwide, a total of 47,000 deaths each year. About five million are hospitalized each year for treatment of abortion-related complications. In developing regions, where abortion is largely illegal, more than half of all abortions are unsafe.
About 30% of those able to get pregnant will have an abortion by age 45; 25% will have an abortion by age 30; and 8% by age 20.
More than 40 million abortions are performed worldwide each yearl More than 85% of all abortions occur in developing countries
More than 17 million aged 13-44 are considered to be in need because they are at risk for unintended pregnancy and have an income below 250% of the federal poverty level, or because they are younger than 20.
Emergency contraception is a way to prevent pregnancy after unprotected sex or contraceptive failure. It consists of a concentrated dosage of one or more of the same hormones found in birth control pills, and has no effect on an established pregnancy. It can be effective for up to 3-5 days after sex, depending on the product.
When used correctly, modern methods of birth control are highly effective. The two thirds of U.S. women at risk for unintended pregnancy who use contraceptives consistently and correctly account for only 5% of all unintended pregnancy.
Virtually all those Americans who may become pregnant aged 15-44 who have ever had sex have used at least one contraceptive method (99%). Only 7% of sexually active women who want to avoid pregnancy are currently not using a method.
About 6.7 million U.S. pregnancies occur each year, and nearly half (49%) are unintended
Three quarters of those in developing countries who want to avoid pregnancy use modern contraceptive methods, but the remaining one-fourth do not. If all those who wanted to avoid pregnancy used modern methods, unintended pregnancy in developing regions would decline by almost three-fourths.
In case you haven’t heard, the U.S. Supreme court has decided that employers can now decide if they want their insurance programs to cover birth control or not. The birth control that places like Hobby Lobby are wanting to not cover are the hormonal IUD which is also the most effective form of pregnancy prevention and used to treat many reproductive issues.
Not only that but they’ve decided that there will no longer be any kind of protection from protesters for patients going to clinics that offer abortion.
If you want to do something about this, call your reps and complain, Join Planned Parenthood’s Campaign against this decision to not cover birth control, pledge to be a clinic defender, or become a clinic escort.
As always, it helps to spread awareness and sex education!
The Most Controversial Sex-Ed Books for Children
This resource is being passed around OWL educators, I’m calling it “the best sex ed list for children”
"Our Bodies, Ourselves" by Judy Norsigian
Chief offenses: Candid discussions of women’s reproductive health and sexuality. (Jerry Falwell called it “obscene trash.”)
Excerpt: “We emphasize that you take a mirror and examine yourself. Touch yourself, smell yourself, even taste your own secretions. After all, you are your body and you are not obscene.”
"My Mom’s Having A Baby! A Kid’s Month-by-Month Guide to Pregnancy" by Dori Hillestad Butler
Chief offenses: Cartoon nudity, discussion of intercourse.
Excerpt: “The man puts his penis between the woman’s legs and inside her vagina. After a while, a white liquid shoots out of the man’s penis and into the woman’s vagina. The liquid is full of millions of sperm. They swim up the woman’s vagina, through her uterus, and into one of her fallopian tubes. If a sperm and egg join together, nine months later, a new baby will be born!”
"And Tango Makes Three" by Peter Parnell and Justin Richardson
Chief offenses: A same-sex relationship between two male penguins.
Excerpt: “Tango was the very first penguin in the zoo to have two daddies … And all the children who came to the zoo could see Tango and her two fathers playing in the penguin house with the other penguins.”
"Show Me!: A Picture Book of Sex for Children and Parents" by Helga Fleischhauer-Hardt
Chief offenses: Black-and-white photographs of adults and children in the nude, and discussion of intercourse, masturbation and orgasm.
Excerpt: “My older sister told me that sometimes she rubs inside her VULVA on her CLITORIS and thinks about nice things, and then she gets excited and she has an ORGASM then. That’s BEAUTIFUL.”
"What You Can Do to Avoid AIDS" by Earvin "Magic" Johnson
Chief offenses: Discussions of AIDs and contraception.
Excerpt: “Please notice: I said ‘safer sex,’ not ‘safe sex.’ In today’s world, there is no such thing as absolutely ‘safe sex’ when we’re talking about intercourse.”
"All Kinds of Families" by Norma Simon
Chief offenses: Homosexuality and divorce and multiculturalism, oh my!
Excerpt: “A family can be a mother, a father, and children who are growing up. A family can be a mother and her children, living, loving, working and sharing. A family can be a father and his children, living, loving, working and sharing.”
"Who’s in a Family?" by Robert Skutch
Chief offenses: Again, mentions of homosexuality, divorce and multicultural families.
Excerpt: “A family can be made up in many different ways.”
"The Family Book" by Todd Parr
Chief offenses: Gay people! Interracial marriage!
Excerpt: “Some families are big. Some families are small. Some families are the same color. Some families are different colors. All families like to hug each other.”
"It’s So Amazing! A Book about Eggs, Sperm, Birth, Babies, and Families" by Robie H. Harris
Chief offenses: Cartoon nudity and discussions of abortion, homosexuality, intercourse and masturbation (AHIM from here on out, because, sadly, this is a theme).
Excerpt: “An abortion is a medical way to end a pregnancy. Most women who have had an abortion can become pregnant again and give birth to a strong and healthy baby.”
"It’s Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex, and Sexual Health" by Robie H. Harris
Chief offenses: Cartoon nudity, and mentions of AHIM.
Excerpt: “Some people disapprove of gay men and lesbian women. Some even hate homosexuals only because they are homosexual. People may feel this way toward homosexuals because they think homosexuals are different from them or that gay relationships are wrong. Usually these people know little or nothing about homosexuals, and their views are often based on fears or misinformation, not facts. People are often afraid of things they know little or nothing about.”
Going back to Adult Sex Education, I’m not sure if I blogged about this already or not but I volunteer with my local Planned Parenthood and a lot of what I do is asking people to support PP. A lot of times from older people I’ll get the answer “oh well I don’t need their services any more” or “I’m done with having kids.” and this is a mindset that a lot of adults have. This is incredibly dangerous.
I hear a lot from married couples who encounter problems. Because several STDs can be asymptomatic and difficult to test for you can get an STD/STI from a monogamous marriage. HPV especially is a problem when it comes to this. Even when you are married it’s important to get tested and continue to have pap smears. Even if you’ve gone through menopause you need to continue to have your once every two year pap smear, plus your mammograms. Also recently I’ve been hearing a lot about STD rates in retirement homes. You need to continue to use condoms even after you’ve reached menopause. Pregnancy isn’t the only problem with unprotected sex.
Pregnancy as you get older can also become more difficult and sex education for adults needs to cover your options if you do become pregnant. Proper menopause education is also important and often times left out. If my mother hadn’t had my grandmother to tell her she was going through early menopause because of her hysterectomy it would have been a lot more scary for her. We need to be able to give information about sexual health with age like possible prostate or erection issues that can occur.
Because many adults didn’t have proper sex education as teens or young people they need to be caught up on new information. I’ve had to explain to my mother the new research on the vaginal corona or hymen. Many adults suffer through painful sex and need just as much help with foreplay as teens. Especially as they age and their libidos may change and it may be more difficult to become aroused.
What are some other topics that adults need when it comes to sex education?
I’m going through the OWL curriculum for K-1st grade and making little notes of changes I want to make or visual aids I want to put together. One of the things we have is two illustrations of a diadic DFAB child’s body and two illustrations of a diadic DMAB child’s body, one with labels and one without. It’s a really basic illustration, not a lot of detail. It also just covers the parts we can see (the vulva only shows the mons pubis and labia majora as that’s the only part visible from the front view) It is labeled Male and Female which I’m going to do away with but I’m wondering if it’d be helpful to me include diagrams including intersex children? I know there are a lot of different variations and many of them wouldn’t be apparent, how important is genital diversity in teaching students in Kindergarten and First Grade? Any intersex individuals want to chime in as to what would be appropriate for this activity? They’ll be used to help children name body parts, tell what certain body parts do, name differences between different bodies, basic body education, how we take care of our bodies, how bodies change as we grow,
Re: Multiple infections stories
When I have a urinary tract infection or a yeast infection, I stop having sex until it has cleared up because the infection can spread from myself to my partner. I also stop genital stimulation on myself so that I’m not further irritating anything and making it more difficult for my body to heal.
Urinary tract infection: There is a burnt wheat or spice smell (no one else seems to smell it though). Following that I get a lot of skin irritation. So, I drink a more water and take cranberry extract capsules and get extra rest. I also lay off of sugary foods. This helps clear things up pretty quickly.
Kidney infection: Sometimes UTI’s can travel up into the kidneys. But, I once had a kidney infection without noticing the other stuff. I found out about it when I rested my palm against my lower back where my kidney is. I yelped because it felt like I had been stung by a jelly fish! I went to the doc who put me on anti-biotics. I ate plain yogurt (low in sugar—10g or less is best, high in live cultures). I can’t remember anything else about it though.
Yeast infection: Sometimes I’m not sure if its going to be a UTI or a YI. It has the same symptoms for me, a stronger body odor (that nobody else can smell but me :P), and irritation. Sometimes, I get a little discharge that smells. It is a little different from the UTI. I buy stuff in the store or get a pill from the doc. I cut out the sugary foods and more yogurt (see Kidney infection above.)
The yogurt with live cultures is really important. Anti-biotics kills everything, even the good stuff we need to keep the bacteria in our bodies healthy and in check. :P
If I have incorrect assumptions, please feel free to contact me if you would like to share credible sources that can provide me with better information on this topic. :)
Note to FYSE: Because this post contains information about sexual activity, please also tag it with #nsfw Many thanks!