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Is it Safe to Use my Sex Toy When I’m Pregnant?
Pregnancy can be a wonderful but confusing time for your body. So many things are off limits for the health of you and your baby, how do you know what’s OK and not? We get this question all the time and figured it was time to address it for our followers who are expecting.
In fact, it can be very important to use sex toys during pregnancy. Many women have trouble achieving orgasms while they’re…
People have a lot of questions about sex and gender. It can be super confusing and there’s a lot of misinformation out there. I want to look at some words that I get questions about a lot in this contact. I just want to put a general trigger warning as we do talk a little about slurs and what…
Because I got some questions after my “gender is complex” post last night, I decided to bring this back around.
My Circumcision Story
I’m a 19 year old who had a circumcision today - I’m writing a diary blog to help anyone worried about having it done/want to have an informed decision on whether or not to go for it! Please check out my first post, I’ll be updating it daily.
http://circumcisionstory.tumblr.com/ <— Here’s the link :)
Anon 2: The ‘Sex’ in ‘Biological Sex’ is not a social construct. It refers to the fact that we are either XX or XY and were born with genitalia that comes from that chromosome pairing. How we *identify/label* that sex, be it masculine/male or feminine/female, is the social construct because the identification/label is often used interchangeably with gender. This is why medical institutions prefer to know your Biological Sex instead of your Gender. XX and XY have different general health risks.
Sex is determined by doctors based on your genitals. If you have something close enough to what they believe males should have you’re called a male. If you have something close enough to what they believe females should have you’re called a female. Because genitals are diverse
not all genitals are what we stereotypically think of male or female. Some people have medical issues or have medical exams that reveal that their chromosomes, hormones, or internal sex organs don’t match what is usually thought of as male or female.
We made up these categories and thought that male always equals penis, testicles, testosterone, XY and female always equals vagina, vulva, uterus, ovaries, clitoris, estrogen, XX but that’s not true. People have a combination of genitals, sex organs, chromosomes and hormones and we need multiple tests to figure out who exactly has what. Because most people don’t get these tests done unless something medically happens that they need the test done we don’t know how many people have these variances. It is a social construct that says that people born with penises are men and people born with vulvas and vaginas are women. Although it’s true that many people born with penises many times have specific medical needs that differ from people born with vaginas and vice versa it’s not necessary for medical reasons. When you see a doctor they ask you many different questions including medical history. Designated sex alone is not enough to know any and all medical problems that could occur. In fact the assumption that all those born with certain genitals have certain medical needs can cause many health problems because of hormonal differences and chromosomal differences.
So yeah no, sex is a social construct too.
Submission: Trans Anthology About Inimacy and Sexuality
I am looking to create and publish an anthology about the intersections of transness, intimacy, and bodies. The goal is to create a multifaceted framework through stories and community knowledge that can be a resource for trans people, as well as their sexual and/or romantic partners. Examples of navigating complex experiences of intimacy are an area that needs a stronger voice, as the predominant representation of sexuality is through a cisgender perspective. Trans people often lack the voices of shared experience they need to express and understand their own narrative of sexuality. If society is to ever take trans individuals seriously as people to form intimate relationships with, or if any trans person has ever felt a lack of guidance in developing new means of intimacy, then this kind of knowledge needs to be created and shared.
Please submit a personal narrative, reflection/opinion, or dialogue/discussion.
Some thematic suggestions for a submission are, though by no means limited to:
- Language surrounding bodies, yours and others
- Touch and sensation
- Communication around needs
- Social expectations
- Sex and sex toys
- Positive/Affirming experiences
- Negative experiences
- Major personal or shared breakthroughs, such as perspective or experience of intimacy
Submissions should short, about 4-12 pages, though more or less is acceptable. People of all gender identities are encouraged to submit! I’m looking for a range of perspectives. Submissions will not be edited in their content, only their format. Please bear this in mind when you submit your piece.
Email submissions by 09/01/2014 to email@example.com
Please include a little about yourself so that your writing can be contextualized, as well as how you would like to be credited, as each submission will feature the name of the author or else be listed as anonymous.
I will be attempting to publish via Transgressive Press or Sotto Voce Press. Failing those, I will attempt other queer presses. Should I be unable to publish them in a traditional format, I will release the anthology for free via ebook on Amazon. Sadly, not all of those who submit will make the final iteration of the anthology; however all contributors published will receive a free book or a link to the ebook. Any profits collected from this work will be put into a trans scholarship for students.
A little about me: I am a non-binary Bay Area resident and on the cusp of finishing university. My future goals are to open a transitional housing non-profit for trans people and to be a sex educator, both of which I am actively working towards. In the spirit of education and trans activism, I am trying to put together this anthology. When I was going through my transition, examples of how to interact intimately with others and myself were hard to find. The information was out there, but buried or presented in an authoritative way sterilized of context. I struggled for over a year to find my own way, and only was able to after listening to others share their own experiences. I want to make a reference for people who are similarly struggling. I’ve wanted to contribute to the greater trans community in a meaningful way, something that wasn’t already happening. It occurred to me that many out there would benefit from such an anthology, so here I am attempting to make it real.
You can follow progress of the anthology and learn a little more about me at anthologyadventures.tumblr.com