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I have had contact with you a few times under my vaginismus/asexuality blog called vaginismusandsexuality. I am requesting stories from people concerning a subject and since this also ties into your blog subject I was wondering if I could get a signal boost from you.
I am wanting to write an informative blog post about how the asexuality intersects with the medical field, both from physiological and psychological fields, primarily in recommending ‘corrective therapy’ to people who ID as asexual or those who may fall under the spectrum. More details on what I am asking for is in the link. The post will be sharing stories on what other people have experienced and how to defend your asexuality to medical professionals who want to ‘treat’ you.
Since I went under this ‘corrective therapy’ for being asexual while still in denial about it, something I will elaborate on more in the big post, I am struggling to get more submissions from people who have experienced this. I really wish that it is because no one else has experienced this, but I unfortunately know better.
I really hope you help me get the word out on this project of mine; this is really important to me. I don’t want another person to have to go through what I did.If you do post this I request all information concerning this to be sent to my vaginismusandsexuality blog, not my main account.
Ran across another term for LGBT/QUILTBAG/GSRM!
Introducing: MOGII, Marginalized Orientations, Gender Identity, and Intersex.
Anyone heard of this one? Thoughts?
Conversation Topic of the day (kind of)
I was reading a book about gender and it mentioned about how teens (especially girls) who mature faster tend to be more sexualized. I know I’ve seen this, where girls with bigger breasts or hips are more sexualized, and men with more muscle definitions are sexualized. You can also see how this contributes to the sexualization and portrayal of certain races. Latina and Black girls are two of the most sexualized races, and they are usually portrayed in media as having larger breasts, hips, and fuller lips. The book talked about how when we see teens who are more physically developed we assume they’re more mentally developed. You hear this used a lot in rape and sexual harassment cases.
In what other ways does this stereotype affect us? One thing I can think of is in portrayals (especially comics) of different orientations.We know that bisexual people and other multisexual people are sterotyped as being more sexually promiscuous and upon reflection a lot of bisexual people are portrayed as being more voluptuous or muscular. Also I’ve seen quite a few comics of asexual people looking more androgynous, with less muscles or smaller breasts or hips.
Are there other examples of this you can see? How might this affect these groups of people? How can this be used to oppress (as most stereotypes are)? How might this affect teenagers differently than adults?
Because I found out I’m basically going to be given free reign over the curriculum I’m teaching, especially over gender and orientation inclusiveness I’m going through and editing and changing different workshops.
Here’s the current suggested workshops for Gender Identity and sexual orientation for ages 9-12. I’d like some feedback! I’ll put their recomendations in italics and them put mine in regular print
It starts with Gender Identity and Designated Sex
They start the activity with imagining being “the opposite gender” (which I won’t do because there’s no such thing as the opposite gender) and answering these questions:
what will be fun about being another gender?
Basically the points of this is to 1. show that boys and girls can do whatever they want and also 2. begin a conversation about sexism. I need to figure out a way to do both.
Because this workshop comes after the puberty workshop I’m not sure if I want to just flip the two and start this one out by defining designated sex and gender or do a mini lesson on designated sex and gender on the puberty workshop. I think switching them may be easier and I’ll talk to my co-teacher about doing that.
First I’ll explain how designated sex works and about intersex people. I could go from there to talk about how people take that designated sex and gender people by that. I can ask them about what experiences they’ve had with someone they know or themselves having gender and gender roles being forced on them or what they know about in general. We can still have them answer the questions on if boys are girls should dress differently, or act differently and what kind of messages they get about that. Then we can talk about how people treat others based on their perceived gender and about sexism. Then we can talk about how some people don’t identify with the sex people assign them. We can ask them how they know what gender they are, and what life may be like if they don’t identify with their designated sex or if they’re intersex.
What’s missing from this? How does everyone feel about this? What kind of activites about this would be good for this age group?
they start by writing down different orientations and asking what people know or associate with them. That’d be kind of really difficult to do with how many orientations there are, What’s a way we could do this activity? We also need to explain romantic orientation. Pretty much all they have down is “lets define LGBT, how do people know what their orientation is, and is it possible to tell what orientation people are?” What else do we need to cover? What kind of activities could we have?
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Submission: Bi/pan kerfluffle
I think a lot of the wrestling over definitions misses a major point behind the labels. Bi has a definition, pan has a definition, and within those there are nuances in how an individual personally applies it. It’s the personal nuance inside the general definition that seems to be what everyone is missing—it’s the link between “no there’s a definition for X, you can’t say it’s the same as Y, that’s ignorant and erasive” and "call yourself what you like, however you want to define it".
Nuance within a definition allows for personal detail without running over anyone else. It’s like the biological classification system: you have the big category called “bird”, and within that there’s the budgy, the hawk, and the pengiun. They’re all the same type, but have different details. Same for orientation: different details under the larger category. Bi is *generally* more than one but not all, and within that umbrella people have different details. Pan is *generally* all people/genders, and within that umbrella people focus on different details.
I’ve not run into this type of fight over gender categories. People know this is obvious with gender, that you have the larger categories with defining detail under it. The fight there is more “where is the line”, which really, isn’t so much a valid question as it is a human obsession with a need to have definite categories. Same for orientation, too—there isn’t a big fat line delineating these things. There’s wobbly areas between them when you get down to the line; but again, that doesn’t mean delineation isn’t possible, as above.
FYSE note: just one little correction.Bi is generally same gender and different genders, not more than one but not all. Many bisexuals are attracted to all genders. But you are right, it’s not about identifying others, everyone can identify themselves, but it’s important not to make preconceived notions about groups based on what you think the definition of their orientation is.
Submission: Safer Sex and Young FAAB Dykes/Queers
Can lesbians really contract STIs? Do trans guys who only have sex with cis women really have to use barriers? Does anyone actually use dental dams? Do they work?
To be clear: this confusion about how and why to have safer sex is not because of those sexist tropes that “lesbian sex” or vulvas and vaginas are so goddamn confusing. It’s because safer sex between two people with vulvas is so rarely discussed. […]
When I first learned about safer lesbian sex as a teenager, it seemed like this highly esoteric practice. None of my early lovers knew about it and I couldn’t imagine how to bring it up. When I read about women using gloves and dams, they were always a lot older and more sexually experienced than me. Gloves and dental dams felt more like props for sexual roleplay than actual safety devices.
-Laurel Isaac, "Figuring Out How to be a Lesbian Safer Sexpert"
[An exploration of the challenges queer FAAB-people encounter to practicing safer sex, and a run down of the real risks. Read more on Scarleteen.]
Hi there, I’m Charlie Hale. I’m a fairly new blogger on the topic of Feminism, LGBT, Polyamory and Kink (Blog, Tumblr, Twitter). This is a piece on labels for non-monosexuals (bisexual? pansexual? sexual?) that I thought may be appropriate for FYSE.
Some use “bisexual”, some use “pansexual”, others just “sexual” and my personal favourite is “not fussy.” I personally use pansexual in the company of people who are likely to know what that is, and bisexual for those who won’t – but there are almost as many opinions in the topic as there are people.I didn’t always identify as pansexual, though – I originally thought I was straight (also, a man, but that’s a point for another day), followed by bisexual with a leaning towards women… and as I slowly learned that feelings for men weren’t wrong and allowed myself to explore my feelings more, I very much found that I had no real gender preference and eventually came to pansexual.The most important thing to say is that none of those labels arewrong.They have similar meanings, but can have different implications to different people. I use pansexual because it clicks with me – I find that I am attracted to people without concern to their gender (see also “not fussy”) and to me, pansexual works. That’s all that really matters.