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Ran across another term for LGBT/QUILTBAG/GSRM!
Introducing: MOGII, Marginalized Orientations, Gender Identity, and Intersex.
Anyone heard of this one? Thoughts?
you’re addressing the class as though they are either boys or girls… /: nb people exist, even as kids
I totally agree. I can’t find any curricula addressing non binary children. I’m trying to figure out how to educate about non binary identities and other aspects of gender. If anyone has any ideas or resources please send them to me!
Ugh one of the OWL activities is a “gender change exercise” where you imagine being a different gender.
How can I do this in a way that’s not totally offensive to trans and intersex people?
I don’t know how much leeway I’m given and how much I can go into transgender identities but one thing I can think of is to make different cards, “cisgender man” “cisgender woman” “trans man” “trans woman” “genderqueer” “agender” etc. and everyone has to draw one they are not and talk about how their experiences may differ. IDK that’s the only thing I can think of. Keep in mind this is for children age 9-12
You know what’d be a fun activity for younger kids on gender roles, stereotypes, and identity? Have a bunch of felt things like sports, dolls, the color blue or pink, or other things that our society genders and put it in felt boxes. Then have a third box where you put in bits and pieces from both boxes. You focus on the fact that things and actions don’t have gender. Then you can talk about “what makes a boy” and “what makes a girl” and bounce off of that to talk about trans people and intersex people. To continue with that we could have them create people with different genitals/bodies and have them dress them certain ways and give them a box with certain things and then give them a label and show that any body with any clothing and any box can have any gender.
OOH and I can add gender things from different cultures to be inclusive and show cultural differences like the hijab.
I like visual aids
and making things out of felt. I always thought it was magic as a kid when the teacher would create things with felt on a felt background and they would stick… I was an easily amused child.
What do y’all think?
If you could tell your teenage self or other teenagers something important about gender or gender roles what would you say?
Gender Expression, Gender Identity and Sexual Orientation
Q: How do I know what my gender or orientation is?
A: I get a lot of “how do I know if I’m (insert gender or orientation here)” questions. What it comes down to is a lot of people have difficulty knowing for sure. We always hear these stories of, “Oh well I knew since I was 7 and I never doubted myself ever.” which it’s great if you have such certainty but both orientations and genders are fluid. They change and that’s okay. We get so set in people telling us “oh it’s just a phase.” “You don’t really know who you are.” that we feel the need to prove ourselves. You don’t have to prove yourself to anyone. Labels don’t matter if they make you miserable or confused. The purpose of labels is to let you know you’re not alone and there are people out there like you and to be able to find those people and have a safe community. If you feel a certain way explore it. Present yourself the way you’re comfortable, love who you’re going to love, have sex with who you want to, and forget all of the little messages society tells you. How you feel is all that matters. If you find a label that makes you feel safe and happy explore that community. If you want to tell someone about yourself chances are they’re not going to understand a one word answer so you might have to explain anyway. It’s great to learn about different genders and orientations and explore those communities because you learn from it and you learn more about yourself and you might find something special there. No one fully knows themselves, that’s what life is about. A journey to find out who you are. You don’t have to learn everything at once.
Q: What is the difference between transsexual and transgender?
A: Transsexual usually refers to anyone who plans to or is going through hormone replacement therapy or sex realignment surgery. Transgender people don’t have to be transitioning. However, the word “Transsexual” is kind of going out of favour so more and more people are using transgender.
Q: What’s the safe way to bind your chest?
A: The safest way is to get a really good sports bra that is the right size to be comfortable but still make your breasts appear smaller. You can get two really good sports bras and put the top one on backwards but this can get uncomfortable (for me at least). Also, layering is your best friend. You can wear a good sports bra, tight tank top, and t-shirt and maybe even put a vest, over shirt, sweater, or jacket over it. You could try a looser binder, but that’s kind of difficult to do since most binders have to be ordered online and you can’t really try those online. You could get a larger binder and if you’re any good at sewing try to alter it to be the right size. This can be tricky though depending on the type of binder. If you’re not worried about being uncomfortable or if you plan on having surgery you can find a good binder that fits perfectly, although finding the right size can be tricky. If you’re planning on having surgery is really the only time it’s a good idea to bind every day and you should never bind with ace bandages or tape.
Q: What does the * after Trans mean?
A: Basically this makes it more inclusive. Trans* can be anyone who is not cis gender, anyone whose gender identity doesn’t match up with their designated sex. This includes non binary identities. Trans without the asterisk just refers the trans men and women.
Done editing the Gender and Orientations section of my FAQ. Are there any other frequently asked questions that need to be put in this category? Do you have any questions about gender or orientation that aren’t answered here?
In honor of Coming Out day, feel free to tell your coming out or being outed stories over at my other blog FuckYeahPersonalStories.
To get the ball rolling here are my stories.
Coming out to my sister was pretty much her asking, “You like girls don’t you?” and me replying “NO GOD NO…maybe… okay yes.” and then an ongoing conversation of the evolution of my sexuality. Also, both of us talking about gender and how we viewed our gender although I haven’t brought up any exact labels or gender identities yet on the gender front. I brought up my polyamory when she brought up her questioning if she was polyamorous.
Coming out to my friends was basically me subtly slipping into our conversation that I thought some girl was hot, although some friends would introduce me as a lesbian or almost lesbian or something really not cool like that or would out me to others. As far as gender identity goes I came out online through facebook and tumblr mostly. Some people ignore it, others don’t respect my chosen pronouns, and other people do. I’ve also mentioned being polyamorous before although most people ignore it because they don’t know what to say.
My sister accidentally outed me to my mother. My mother asked why I was going to school early and my sister said “probably to see her girlfriend” and then the shit hit the fan. My family does not keep secrets at all. My mom called my dad because she thought that all gay people had been sexually abused and she thought my father was the best candidate for that (I then had to explain that wasn’t true). My dad, mother, and sister then went on to talk to the rest of my family about my orientation which was mostly met either with ignoring it or being confused and asking if I was a lesbian or continued asking if I was still a lesbian. I haven’t talked about my gender identity with my family and the only thing hinting at polyamory was that I didn’t believe monogamy worked for me and I didn’t want to get married, which I’ve only really talked about with my parents. But of course they don’t believe me.
Being queer or outside of the “norm” is a mixed bag of people being awesome and people being crap. It’s different for every person you come out to and it’s different for every person coming out.