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This is the storyboard for a new project I’ve just started.
It’s an Abusive Relationship Simulator told in twine form.
The language is gender neutral of course and it’s written as though the reader is in an abusive romantic partnership. The goal of the game is to navigate the abusers behavior by making choices in day to day situations to try to avoid/mitigate abuse from the abusive partner.
I’m hoping that this will help offer people an understanding of what abusive relationships are really like and address victim-blaming from people who seem to think the victim should be able to avoid ‘setting the abuser off’. The situations are based on my own life experience of being with an abuser for seven years. 

Behind this color is a name, a face, and a story. Purple for DVAM…I’m a survivor.

a reality check that’s a blow to the solar plexis
SEE ALSO: why i’m crumbling under the weight of prolonged loneliness for fear of letting anyone in again & repeating this

It feels like such a privilege to not be in an abusive relationship.

TW: Talk of sexual abuse


I was just standing in the kitchen with Pax after we’d unpacked, Pax decided it was a good time to take the bin out but he fumbled with it all trying to separate the cardboards from the plastics. I was just standing there giggling, he had a laugh too and as he walked out the door with the rubbish, i thought “It feels like such a privilege to not be being hurt right now”.

Then it hit me how fucked up that actually is. Craig (biological father) was abusive towards my mother and i. My mum copped sexual, physical, verbal, emotional and financial abuse, i copped physical, verbal and emotional abuse. We left him when i was 15 and 6-8 months later i was in a relationship with a man and living with him. Then he raped me.  Then there was a drug addicted girlfriend who regularly threw big tantrums and got in fights two years later a girl who said “No i will never try to treat you right….i am committed to being abusive”. I’ve had relationships between these abusive ones that weren’t abusive but they usually also weren’t safe or sane. 

For the first time i am in a relationship where i feel completely respected, loved, accepted, satisfied and happy. I don’t feel afraid of talking in case something i say sets off an angry outburst, i don’t feel afraid that one day during sex he won’t stop, i don’t feel afraid when he runs his hand over the back of my neck, i don’t feel manipulated or lied to, i feel equal. It feels completely new to not be in a loud, shouting, crashing, scary household with a man. This is what it always should have been. This is what is fucking always should be for everyone though namely in this post, i am referring to women.

In America, 25% of women have experienced domestic violence in their life time. 85% of domestic violence victims are women. 

In Australia 40% of all women have experienced violence since the age of 15. Since the age of 15, 33% of women have experienced inappropriate comments about their body or sex life, 25% have experienced unwanted sexual touching and 19% have been stalked.

Historically women have been victimised by someone they knew. So going by these statistics and many many many many many many many many many more, women are pretty fucking lucky not to experience some kind of relationship violence or abuse in their life time, to not be abused in some way really is a fucking privilege.

Yesterday while checking my facebook, i came across a joke (i mean..a “joke”) from an adult comedy page; i’m not going to repeat the joke for not wanting to spread it but it was a rape joke. I saw it and felt myself go red. I saw how many likes it was getting and the “haha” comments and i made a comment calling them out. A few people agreed with me but what i was shocked to see was women were the main people laughing at this joke (or rather the main ones commenting) and defending the joke even though the joke was one made about a violent sexual act being performed against another woman. I felt like i was surrounded by a great pit of social brainwashing. We have been programmed and pushed down so much when it comes to speaking up about and against sexual violence that the very act of raping someone is now a joke. And not just that, but even if the joke had been made and the victim was male, he would be put down for his lack of “masculine” or “manly” response…so he’d be called a pussy or a girl. Now just being female is an insult.

This shouldn’t all be normal. It shouldn’t be expected for a woman or girl to be assaulted. It shouldn’t be an exceptional thing to have a relationship that isn’t abusive. Women shouldn’t be the butt to every insult or degrading, dehumanizing joke. I guess what i want is for people to think about this. Think about what the people around you are saying, what they are doing. Think about what you are saying and doing because from the above statistics, if you’ve met say…10 women, you know at least one woman who has been assaulted or abused. Are you helping create an environment that is supportive, safe, active, fun for everyone or are you telling the rape jokes your sister might get nightmares from? 

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Please help.



Okay Tumblr, here is the deal, I need your help. All of your help.

My mom works for Chrysalis, a nonprofit domestic violence shelter in Phoenix, Arizona. I cannot praise Chrysalis enough, honestly.

It’s the only domestic violence shelter in the valley that caters to all victims - women and men. Gay, lesbian, transgender, straight, pregnant, teenagers, men and women, they offer help and protection to anyone who is a victim of domestic violence. Not many other shelters can say that.

The thing is in order to run a great organization like this, they need funds. Currently Chase is offering up to $2 million in grants to organizations such as Chrysalis.

Here is where you come in. All you need to do is CLICK THIS LINK AND VOTE FOR CHRYSALIS. You don’t need to give any of your personal information or give any of your own money. You just need to vote for them.

Currently, Chrysalis is seriously trailing in the voting. I’ve seen bloggers on Tumblrs raise thousands of dollars in hours so I know something as easy as submitting a vote is something you guys can do.


If nothing else, please reblog this and get the word out guys. Any help is huge help.

Signal boosting. This is important.


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TW: abuse/rape

Violence Against Women Doesn’t Discriminate
by Sandi Villarreal 05-16-2012 | 3:37pm
When you hold a woman’s trembling hand as a nurse collects evidence from her brutal rape, it doesn’t much matter her sexual preference, ethnicity or legal status. When you sit behind a desk in Washington, D.C., apparently it does.

The House of Representatives passed on Wednesday a version of the Violence Against Women Act that would limit protections to immigrant, LGBT and American Indian abuse victims. House Republicans argue that Democrats are politicizing a non-issue, but stating fact is not partisan politics.
The new version of the bill not only deletes new protections that received bipartisan support in the Senate, but also eliminates ones that existed in previous versions of the Act. For instance, the new version could make it more difficult for immigrants married to abusive U.S. citizens to come forward for fear of losing their residency.
Let’s talk about what VAWA does.
When I lived in Texas, I was a rape crisis advocate. I manned the emergency hotline and was called to the hospital to sit with rape survivors, talk them through the medical and legal process and advocate on their behalf to make sure they received the proper care and information.
VAWA funding made sure these (primarily) women had clothes to wear home from the hospital since theirs had to be collected for evidence. It went toward training the sexual assault nurse examiner to do simple things like ask permission before touching a rape survivor. It made sure the first responders knew what (and how) to ask, so they could catch the perpetrator.
When I moved to St. Louis, I became a domestic violence advocate. When women called into the hotline, I directed them to housing resources and talked them through the process of getting orders of protection.
VAWA funding made sure a victim had a place to go when finally summoning the courage to leave the abuser. The money provided training, education and advocacy for all victims of intimate partner violence.
One of the biggest hindrances to preventing violence against women is underreporting. Survivors have to weigh real life-and-death scenarios — not to mention emotional and psychological — when deciding to come forward. It’s not easy to let strangers access the most intimate details of your life, your past, your body, and have them be dissected in order to have justice.
Now think about that prospect with the added threat of deportation. Or with the possibility of being denied help. Or being told your abuser won’t be prosecuted because of where you live.
When you live with the stories, when you see how easy it can be to get lost in process, when you watch the system fail—you cannot imagine telling some women they’re not worth the protection.
Sandi Villarreal is Associate Web Editor for Sojourners.
Stop Violence Against Women word cloud, mypokcik / Shutterstock.com

The Domestic Violence Blog Network


Hey everyone! 

As some of you may know, I’m a survivor of and struggling with Domestic Violence, IPV, and Childhood abuse. Although I’ve been attending therapy for 7 years, I still don’t feel like it’s enough support, and maybe some of you feel the same.

So I asked myself, “Self, wouldn’t it be fucking awesome to create a network of people who have survived, are struggling with, and need support dealing with Domestic Violence, IPV, Childhood abuse and the like?” 


This is why I would like to connect survivors of and those who need support with dealing through Domestic Violence, IPV, and Childhood abuse! and this is how we’ll do it:

  1. Connect- Reach out, find each other, and come together. Submit your experiences,ways you cope,poems,rants,artwork,anything that helps you find support and deal with it. Find other bloggers that have dealt with,are going through, and want to support eachother.
  2. Redefine-  We all know the textbook definition,studies have shown the effect Domestic Violence have on mental health, and more than a few of us struggle with PTSD, but it all seems so impersonal, like we’re lab rats rather than thinking, breathing,human beings who have to deal with this shit day in and day out. We must reclaim what it means to be a survivor, we must redefine what Domestic Violence means to us, we must realize how domestic violence is a direct outcome of sexism and the fundamentals of it’s abuse and how we must collectively fight back against the system that supports it.
  3. Speak Up- Seek resources to help those struggling to get out of abusive environments. Create guides on how to bring yourself back into a safe space when you are triggered. Reach out from town to town,city to city, country to country, on where shelters are, supportive housing„emergency numbers, and local support groups. Plan meetups, talk ins, hangouts, anything that will help support eachother. Don’t let abusers get swept under the rug, especially those in power. Put their shit on blast (if you want to), call them out, and make them wish they thought twice. Help fund-raise for those who need it, to get out of town, to seek therapy, find housing, because not all of us have the privilege of be supported financially and may need help from fellow survivors. 

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE connect to the domesticviolenceblognetwork and spread the word!

*I run several blogs, and although I fully support and love each and every one of them, it does drain a lot of my time and energy, so it would be much appreciated if anyone who would like to help moderate the Domestic Violence Blog Network! 

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From One Survivor to Another: I recently became inspired to write this tip list. TW: Abuse





If you are living with an abusive person (be it a spouse, sibling, cousin, roommate, or partner, and whether it is physical or verbal or whatever), here’s some tips.

1. If the person demands you isolate yourself by…

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White House Threatens To Veto House GOP's 'Violence Against Women Act' | TPM Livewire



The White House on Tuesday issued a veto threat to the House Republican version of the Violence Against Women Act.

“The Administration strongly opposes H.R. 4970, a bill that would undermine the core principles of the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA),” reads a statement from the Office of Management and Budget. OMB griped about provisions that, unlike the Senate-passed version, exclude protections for Native Americans and LGBT domestic violence andundocumented immigrants.

The Administration urges the House to find common ground with the bipartisan Senate-passed bill and consider and pass legislation that will protect all victims.  H.R. 4970 rolls back existing law and removes long-standing protections for victims of domestic violence and sexual assault – crimes that predominately affect women.  If the President is presented with H.R. 4970, his senior advisors would recommend that he veto the bill.

h/t: Sahil Kapur at TPM LiveWire


Domestic Violence and Abuse: Signs of Abuse and Abusive Relationships


This a fantastic resource that really breaks things down for you. Educate yourself. Know the signs. And remember: abuse knows no sex or gender - abuse is abuse.

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