A Vital if Unpopular LGBT (and Asexual) Civil Right
I know many of you are against guns, but I think self-defense weapons should be covered under the second amendment as well. It is dangerous for people who are perceived as different and active and passive steps to defend yourself is a good idea.
Personally, I carry pepper spray just in case. I will also be replacing my stun gun at some point.
Asexuality and Kink
As I said in the beginning, the idea that “kink is necessarily sexual” is still pretty widespread within the kink community (and our culture in general). This is unfortunate, because that attitude can be alienating—not just to kinky asexuals, but to anyone who enjoys kink but doesn’t necessarily want it to be too sexual. Attitudes often change slowly, but they can change—and in my experience at kinky social events, people are very curious about kink outside of what they’re familiar with. (Mention to someone at a kink event that you’re asexual and you’ll get a lot of questions… but I consider that a good thing, because in my experience they’ve generally been open-minded, non-judgemental questions from people who seem to genuinely want to learn more.) With the asexual community becoming more visible and prominent, it’s my hope that the kink community will start to become more aware that BDSM doesn’t have to be sexual for everyone, and will be more inviting to people who just aren’t that interested in sex with their kink.
(Source: genderandsexualityawareness)
To the person who thinks they have a fetish
I’m an ace with a fetish (bondage/BDSM) and it’s completely possibe to have a fetish and not desire any sexual activity.
For me, I get sexual/sensual pleasure from *ahem*, and sexual activity with somebody else doesn’t do anything for me. And I tend to engage in the fetish on my own (so it’s similar to masturbation in that regard). Or if I was to engage in my fetish with somebody else, ideally there’d be no sexual activity involved and the other person wouldn’t care that I wasn’t sexually attracted to them - and the pleasure would solely be from the fetish. I think my sexuality is just orientated to *ahem* rather than to other people.
To be an ace with a fetish just means that you get sensual/sexual pleasure from something other than sexual activity. And ace fetishists might simply fantasise about it, or engage in it by themself, or with a platonic/romantic partner. Some aces describe the pleasure they get from their fetish as sensual or physical, others describe it as sexual pleasure.
It is just a bit different to being a sexual fetishist, since there’s no sexual attraction to others and possibly no desire for sexual activity. But other than that it’s still possible for aces to have fetishes and get sensual/sexual pleasure from other things.
Another Response to the 13 Myths About Asexuality
I’ve asked the author to provide additional commentary on his own about this article. I hope he will do so.
(via loversintransition)
Anonymous asked: i will try my best to not sound rude, for i intend no rudeness! also i will admit before hand total ignorance on the subject of asexuality! but i just don't understand how expressing your needs in a relationship is alienating other people? if a sexual relationship is something you want, you shouldn't have to hide that or give that up in order to be "politically correct"obviously expressing that in a way that isn't totally rude is best, but the statement itself isn't really alienating?
Of course you should be honest about what you want in a relationship when you’re getting into a relationship, but if talking to an asexual person you say that you couldn’t be in a relationship when it isn’t sexual it can feel alienating. A lot of asexual people have people telling them things like that all the time. It just makes you feel “othered”.
Anonymous asked: I identify as asexual but during the "special" time of the month when I get my period, I get really horny. In which I have to do something about it after the week is over. I was wondering, is this normal?
Totally normal! Many asexual people still get aroused from time to time, it doesn’t have anything to do with their sexual attraction.
Anonymous asked: I am supportive of asexuals, but, told my asexual friend I wouldn't be able to be in a relationship with one as I'm very sexually active/curious. She told me I was being a-phobic. Was I?
That can sound really hurtful to an asexual person. Being in a relationship with a sexual person can be really difficult for an asexual person because they sometimes feel pressured into sexual situations that they don’t really care for. However, there are very sexual people who find amazing relationships with asexual people because although there might not be sex involved there is still a lot of intimacy and it is a fulfilling relationship. Asexual people do get put down a lot for not being sexual and it can be difficult to find support because a lot of people say things like “you’ll change your mind” or “there’s no way I could be in a relationship that wasn’t sexual!” it can feel really alienating. Just talk to your friend and be there for them and supportive.
-FYSE
Girls With Slingshots: Erin's Asexuality Officially Confirmed
Can’t argue with the author about stuff like this.
