Anonymous asked: my partner and i also want to do sexual things, but as we both live at home and both of our families are christian (aka 'no sex before marriage') we have next-to-no opportunities to be intimate, except for secluded rooms where we have to be able to put whatever was taken off back on quickly, or in his car. any suggestions?
I actually answer this in my FAQ! Find a secluded parking lot in you have a car away from main roads. If you don’t have a car you can have sex outdoors in a secluded place with a blanket to lay on or you can go camping!
Anonymous asked: I have this little problem. My boyfriend and I are still teenagers and we enjoy sex very much. We're tired of having to have sex very quietly because both of our parents don't let us in either of our houses alone. Neither of us have cars either. The main problem with this is that I love to make noises and it helps me reach climax. I just want to know when and where we can get some privacy! Any ideas?
this is a really difficult question (and I need to put it in my FAQ because I get it pretty often). Really the only thing I can think of is having sex outside, and be sure to bring a blanket to lay on or you can go camping.
Anonymous asked: I am honestly the most sexually frustrated teen in the entire world.
I promise you your not. Being a teen can be incredibly sexually frustrating. I know I was a sexually frustrated teenager. If you ever need advice or just to talk you can always message me!
Anonymous asked: I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a bit now, and we have sex often. My parents are very "You shouldn't have sex before you're married!" I'm 16. They are starting to watch me and my boyfriend constantly, walking past my room all the time (I have to keep all doors open) and no longer let us be in the house alone. I feel awful that I can't do anything with him, I can't love him physically. What should I do? I feel terrible also lying to my parents and sneaking around behind there backs.
This is really difficult to deal with. I want you to know that there is NOTHING wrong with having sex before you’re married. Your parents are just living with a different set of beliefs than you which is okay, but can be frustrating. You can try having sex at other locations, like his house or a car or outside. Other than that, you’re just going to have to wait it out until you’re out of your parent’s house. If you think it’ll help you can try talking to your parents, but that’s not always helpful.
Are You Ready to Have Sex?
Ask yourself these questions, and consider all the physical and mental possibilities before having sex.
- Is your decision to have sex completely your own (you feel no pressure from others, including your partner)?
- Is your decision to have sex based on the right reasons? (It shouldn’t be based on peer pressure, a need to fit in or make your partner happy, or a belief that sex is the only way to make your relationship with your partner better, or closer. If you decide to have sex, it should be because you feel emotionally and physically ready. Your partner should be someone you trust.)
- Do you feel your partner would respect any decision you made about whether to have sex or not?
- Are you able to comfortably talk to your partner about sex and your partner’s sexual history?
- Have you and your partner talked about what both of you would do if you became pregnant or contracted an STI?
- Do you know how to prevent pregnancy and STI’s?
- Are you and your partner willing to use contraception to prevent pregnancy and STI’s?
- Do you really feel ready and completely comfortable with yourself and your partner to have sex?
These questions were compiled by Young Women’s Health. Find this, and more information here.
(Source: sexpositive)
Unlike classroom lessons, which are supposed to follow local, state or federal guidelines, Internet programs have no independent standards. And proponents of abstinence-based sexual education argue that these digital services presume that sexual activity among teenagers is the norm, and do not spend enough time on alternatives. … Those who run digital programs say they simply want teens to have accurate information, to help them make good decisions. Even though popular culture is saturated with sex, facts and advice can be hard to find.
—New York Times. Sex Education Gets Directly to Youths, via Text. (via sexpositive)
(via sexpositive)
Sex education is a thorny subject for most school systems; only 13 states specify that the medical components of the programs must be accurate. Shrinking budgets and competing academic subjects have helped push it down as a curriculum priority. In reaction, some health organizations and school districts are developing Web sites and texting services as cost-effective ways to reach adolescents in the one classroom where absenteeism is never a problem: the Internet.
—Sext-Ed, The New York Times (via femminista)
Teenagers asked "Would you see abuse?" as relationship campaign goes live
The next phase of a powerful advertising campaign to challenge the attitudes of teenagers to violence and abuse in relationships was launched by the Home Office today.
With 75 per cent of girls and 50 per cent of boys reporting that they have experienced some form of emotional abuse, the £1.5 million TV, cinema, outdoor and online advertising campaign aims to help teenagers recognise abusive behaviour at an early stage, before it escalates to physical violence.
In order for this campaign to succeed we need as many teenagers, parents and teachers to see the material and be encouraged to discuss and debate the issue. We hope you can help us spread the message by using our content and adding your voice to the discussion.
More Information
The adverts are directed towards 13-18 year-olds and feature young couples in a variety of settings. Viewers are challenged to identify controlling behaviour and to reconsider their own attitudes about what is acceptable behaviour in relationships.
All the adverts point young people towards a revamped website where they can find information, seek help and chat with their peers. The site is designed to encourage sharing of the campaign materials across social networks and will also host live web chats with experts. The first of these will happen tomorrow, 2 September at 5pm.
The campaign, funded by the Home Office, is the second part of a long-term communications plan to tackle violence and challenge attitudes that relationship abuse is acceptable.
The adverts first ran in February 2009 and resulted in significant shifts in awareness of the issue. Those teenagers who had seen the adverts were more likely to claim that they would take action if faced with abuse either in their own relationship or on behalf of a friend. This is a complex problem and an ongoing effort is required to continue building on the campaign’s initial success.
Core Facts
- Abuse in relationships is not normal or acceptable and is never okay.
- It’s not just physical violence, like punching or kicking, that makes a relationship abusive – threatening, aggressive and controlling behaviour towards a partner is also abuse.
- 75% of girls and 50% of boys have experienced some form of emotional abuse in a relationship and 25% of girls and 18% of boys have experienced some form of physical abuse.
- Evidence indicates a strong link between the early signs of abusive behaviour in relationships such as controlling behaviour and the onset of sustained and repeated physical violence.
- Adverts will run 1 September to 16 October 2011.
- TV adverts were directed by BAFTA award winning Shane Meadows, director of This is England, Somers Town, Le Donk and Scor-zay-zee among others. They ran in 2010 and are being re-run to support the 2011 campaign
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THIS JUST IN, WE HAVE A NEED FOR MORE SEX ED
I love how news isn’t news these days.
