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Continuation to the Conversation topic:
What is bad about having an illness, sickness, condition, or disease?
Let’s get deep here people! “Why someone wouldn’t want to have an STD” may seem like a ridiculous question but let’s really think about it. What things do you hear about STDs or about illnesses and conditions make you not want to have them? Where do these messages come from? What are your personal experiences with illness and how might that affect your feelings about having STDs/STIs?
Myth or Fact
Anal intercourse is a risk-free way for women to avoid becoming pregnant.
Myth engaging in anal intercourse is one of the easiest ways to spread HIV infection and some other STDs. Because the anus is not as elastic as the vagina and is not lubricated, it can tear more easily, allowing viruses and bacteria to be transmitted directly to the blood of a partner. It is possible for a female to become pregnant from anal sex if semen from the male’s ejaculation seeps out and gets into the opening of her vagina. This is why it is very important to always use lubricated condoms when engaging in anal sex.
Amanda, Sex Educator Intern
apologies for the cissexist language!
HIV-related stigma is worse than ever. Not the external kind, where a society is panicked about the new plague. Thankfully, the days of being shunned by hospital orderlies or funeral homes are over. But I’d prefer that kind of stigma over today’s int…
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The FDA currently considers anal sex very dangerous— so dangerous, in fact, that they won’t approve any condoms for anal usage. The call has gone out for a better anal condom, but so far, nothing is available for…
I grant you STD’s but back in the day when I was in school, condoms were enough. Proper lubrication, preparation, and protection and you were able to engage in the act. Called it safer sex. No sex was ever truly safe, but using a condom was ‘safer’ than not using one, but at least back then they encouraged the use of condoms for such a high risk activity. This was back in the late eighties, early nineties. But now you’re saying that no condom is good enough for anal sex and it shouldn’t be done without protection, and there is no protection because condoms don’t protect. There are politics behind this, especially considering the current political attitude regarding the stereotypical anal sex practitioner. Be Safe, Kids. Wear a condom when you have sex.
I agree that it’s ridiculous the FDA considers it dangerous even with condoms. I think that has to do with our lack of sex education. People just don’t know to use and how to use lube or to go slow. That’s why one of my most popular posts is the Beginner’s Guide to Anal Play.
I agree that part of the reason we have our lack of sex education and anti-sex attitude is heterosexism and monosexism. I misunderstood your original reblog in that you were saying that the claim that anal sex was more dangerous was wrong, I didn’t realize you meant the claim that there were no safe condoms (I agree with you on that, which is why I post so much on safer anal play and different condoms to use).
Five Best Condoms For Anal Sex
The FDA currently considers anal sex very dangerous— so dangerous, in fact, that they won’t approve any condoms for anal usage. The call has gone out for a better anal condom, but so far, nothing is available for purchase.
I can vouch for the FC2 internal condom! They are DIVINE for anal sex!Whoa! Whoa! WHOA! The FDA considers Anal Sex Dangerous. There are multiple bills up for vote that actively promote bigotry and discrimination against Gays. Methinks there just might be a Republican at the head of the FDA.
Actually, it’s because STIs (especially HIV) transmit better through mucus membranes found in the vagina/vulva, anus, and mouth. That’s why STIs are such a big issue among gay cis men because usually DMAB individuals have less of a chance of catching STIs because the penis doesn’t have as much mucus membrane as the vagina and vulva. Anal sex is one of the most high risk activities because of the mucus membrane, because many people don’t know how to correctly have anal sex and experience irritation and tearing, and because so many people don’t think they need to have protection during anal sex.
As you may or may not know I’m the youth leader (we call them youth advisors) for the teen group at my local Unitarian Universalist Church. It’s not very church-y, we talk about politics, social justice, current events, and encourage and find ways to help the teens pursue their goals. We do educate on different religions and find ways to educate about their spiritual and religious interests but that’s about it.
Anyway, my sister (who is also a youth advisor) and I were talking to one of our teens about the Our Whole Lives sex education program we’re going to start soon. We asked if she wanted to be a part of it and she said that she got a pretty good education from her health class. Now as someone who took health class only 8 (oh gods has it really been that long?) years earlier at the same school I knew that it was far from comprehensive. My sister thought to ask her “do you know where your urethra is located?”
She said in the vagina.
When we informed her that no, there is actually another hole in between the clitoris and vagina she was totally blown away. She still is hesitant about it, but she’s going to join the class.
This gave us the idea to make fliers titled “you don’t know what you don’t know” and give little facts that would encourage teens to take this class and encourage parents to send their teens to this class.
As a teen, what are some facts that would let you know “wow I really need sex education!”
As a parent, what are some facts that would let you know “wow I really need to send my kid to a sex education class!”
So far my ideas are:
- you don’t urinate from your vagina
- cold sores are caused by the herpes virus and can be spread to the genitals
- You can get pregnant or an STD the first time you have sex
- "sex" includes more than just intercourse
- Some people can’t be tested for HPV
- STDs usually don’t have any symptoms
- The average penis size is 5 inches
- Out of a survey of 714 occasions where sex occurred, a condom wasn’t used in 322 of them and in the situations where condoms where used 12% used it incorrectly. The most common reason for condom failure is putting the condom on incorrectly.
- Emergency contraception and birth control will not cause an abortion or a loss of fertility
- Usually your body doesn’t go through any changes the first time you have sex.
- Every body, sexuality, and birth control method is different.
- Arkansas is number one in amounts of teen pregnancy
- Arkansas is number four in amounts of STDs
- Arkansas does not require sex education, education on contraceptives, education on STDs, and only has federal funding for abstinence-only education.
- research shows that abstinence-only education does little or nothing to delay time of first sexual experience or STD or pregnancy rates, whereas comprehensive sex education does.
- young people account for 21% of new HIV cases
- The majority (86%) of the decrease in teen pregnancy is caused by increased use of contraceptives, not abstinence.
- Teens report getting most of their information about sex from their peers.
- More than half (55%) of teens report going online for sex education, 46% of websites addressing contraception and 35% of websites addressing abstinence contain incorrect information.
What are some facts you can think of?
How Do STIs Affect Young People?
- One in every 20 adolescents contracts an STI every year, totaling approximately 330 million annual cases.
- For many reasons, young cis women are several times more likely to contract an STI than older cis women.
- Young cis women often suffer more serious consequences of STIs because they are less likely to seek proper information or treatment due to fear, ignorance, shyness, or inexperience.
- STIs during pregnancy can lead to ill-health for the newborn, low birth weight, and premature delivery.
- Left untreated, the costs and consequences of STIs are very high, and include cancer and increased risk of HIV.
- Complications of STIs are also the cause of half of all cases of infertility, affecting some 60 to 80 million couples per year.
(from Global Health Learning Center)