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Masturbation: A Beginners Guide

The first step to a good masturbation session is to create a sexy environment. Do everything that makes you feel sexy. Some examples are taking a hot bath or shower, lighting candles or incense, dancing, playing some sexy music, or dimming the lights. Do whatever you can to have some sort of environment where you know you won’t be disturbed for a while. That way you can be completely comfortable. If you’re into pornography, find something you really like to watch.

If you’re a first timmer or you have low self-esteem, take some naked time. Look at yourself in the mirror, get used to your body. See how attractive you are! You might want to massage some lotion onto your body. This segues into the next part, touching yourself.

Take time with this part. Touch every part of your body. Caress yourself. See what feels good. Tease your fingers along your skin. You can start with massaging your feet and work your way all around your body. Avoid your genitals at first, but after a while start caressing your chest, down to your hips, your thighs, your buttocks, and then your genitalia.

If you have a vagina, start with your pubic area. The part of your body where your thighs meets your pubic area can be very sensitive. After you’ve caressed your pubic area you can explore your outer labia and into your inner labia. At the very top of your inter labia there’s a little nub that at this point might not be too big. That’s your clitoris. That’ll probably be the part you want to concentrate on at first. You can caress around your inner labia and around your vagina, but it’s probably best if you don’t try penetration yet. Continue to caress and massage the erogenous zones you’ve found while touching your body. Do anything that feels good. Caress around your clitoris, varying rhythm, pressure, and speed. Try to stay focused on sex. Fantasize about whatever most turns you on, continue watching porn if that’s what you chose to do or you can read erotica or pornographic comics.

If you’re having problems getting turned on enough you might want to try getting a vibrator. The best kind of vibrator to start with and the most affective for clitoral stimulation is the bullet vibrator. It’s a small ball that usually has a wire going to the control. Put that around the clitoris and turn it on its lowest setting. Start rubbing it around and on the clitoris, applying more direct pressure and upping the settings as you feel necessary.

At this point if you’re totally in the groove, horny and turned on, you can try penetration. A good way to tell if you’re ready for penetration isn’t just how you feel, but also if your vagina has started producing liquid or is “wet”. If it is, put a finger in. Start slowly and carefully. If you haven’t gotten wet but you feel like you’re ready for penetration you might need some lube. Some vaginas just don’t produce a lot of liquid and you might need a little help. At this point only do what feels good and pleasurable to you. If you’re not comfortable with penetration don’t do it! If you are, once you have a finger in a good thing to do is crook your finger upwards and press on the upper wall of your vagina. Around this area is your g-spot. It can be very pleasurable to stimulate it, some people can experience an orgasm from g-spot stimulation alone, and it’s very important in attempting ejaculation or “squirting”. Be sure to continue stimulating your clitoris throughout penetration and g-spot stimulation. If you feel yourself start to loosen and feel more liquids being produced you can try adding more fingers, but don’t rush yourself!  As you get more adventurous you can get a dildo or vibrator to try penetration. The Cervix raises as the vagina expands so for anyone doing deeper/toy penetration it’s probably better to wait until after you’re turned on enough for this to happen before you do so.They make specific vibrators that have g-spot stimulators, clitoral stimulators, or all kinds of functions and do-dads. It might be best to start simple and work your way up, or you can jump right in.

You can also try anal stimulation. Although people with vaginas don’t have a prostate, the nerves around the anus are very sensitive. You can just try rubbing around that area or in-between your vagina and anus. If you want to try more stimulation, get some lube and remember to go slowly and if it starts to hurt, stop! You don’t have to go too far in to feel pleasure; just rubbing around the opening can be pleasurable. There are many toys made for anal stimulation that you can try out if you’re comfortable with it. Remember: Never go from your anus to your vagina with anything, fingers or toys.

At this point just do whatever feels pleasurable. Keep stimulating your clitoris with either your hands or a vibrator. Don’t feel like you have to do too much at first. You don’t have to do any penetration your first time. Keep touching your body and erogenous zones as well as your clitoris. Keep an eye on your breath, be sure to take deep even breaths, even if you are getting close to orgasm. This makes it easier to get to orgasm and can make the orgasm better. This can also help you to be sure to stay in the moment. Don’t get too bogged down by your desire for orgasm, it really is the ride that matters. Just feel the pleasure you’re feeling right now.

Don’t feel discouraged if you don’t reach orgasm. You might have to experiment a bit. It’s a good idea to experiment anyway with masturbation. Experiment with positions, you can try sitting, lying down on your back, reclining, lying down on your stomach, standing up, or leaning against a wall. Experiment with your stimulation, you can stimulate either around or directly on your clitoris. When you’re first trying to reach orgasm it’s better to do direct clitoral stimulation, but once you get more practice you can start trying to orgasm without direct clitoral stimulation but just stimulating around the clitoris. Also, pay attention to your pressure. Don’t rub too hard or else you’ll start to hurt before you can orgasm. As you get more advanced you can lessen and lessen the pressure until you can orgasm just from gentle teasing. Also try different techniques. You can rub in a circle, rub your finger up and down or side to side or any other movement like that. For more direct clitoral stimulation you can retract the hood over your clitoris. The clitoris gets erect just like the penis does. When you first begin your clitoris might be completely hidden by the hood and almost unnoticeable, but as you stimulate it it’ll begin to get bigger and protrude from the hood. Bringing back the hood will make it more sensitive to your touches, but be careful not to be too rough with it. Some people cannot orgasm through clitoral stimulation, so be sure to experiment with g-spot stimulation. Use your fingers or a toy specifically designed for g-spot stimulation and see how it goes. You can stimulate both, just to have all your bases covered. Like I’ve said before, g-spot stimulation is integral for ejaculation so if you apply enough pressure to both your clitoris and g-spot and you start to feel pressure that kind of feels like you might have to urinate you may end up squirting. If you attempt this or feel like it might happen it’s probably a good idea to have towels down.

Everybody’s vulva and vagina is different. You might have a larger clitoris or differently shaped lips, your vagina might be smaller or bigger. Don’t feel self-conscious about your genitalia!

If you have a penis, masturbation might come a bit easier. Varying your technique is still very important! Don’t feel afraid to touch other parts of your body. A lot of men feel like their penis is the extent of their sexuality but that is not true. People with penises can have just as much erogenous zones as people with vaginas. Nipples and chest areas can still be very sensitive, as can your stomach, hips, thighs and buttox. Be sure to caress all of your genitalia, including the root of the penis, the head, and the testicles. Vary your speed and your grip. Don’t tug hard and fast on your penis all the time, because that can desensitize your penis. If you have foreskin, play with it! See how it feels to touch different parts of your foreskin, pull it over and back off the head of your penis. See how certain movements feel.

I know that there’s kind of a stigma attached to anal stimulation with straight men. Feel free though, to stimulate the area in-between your penis and anus. That area, especially near your testicles can be very sensitive. If you’re comfortable with it anal stimulation can be very pleasurable for you. Heterosexual men, this doesn’t make you gay. The anus has a lot of nerves and for people who have it, stimulating the prostate is also very pleasurable. You can start small and with lots of lube just stimulate around the anus and in it just a little while masturbating. You don’t have to go all the way in very quickly. As you get more and more comfortable experiment angles until you find your prostate and what feels best to you.

Again, everyone’s genitalia is different. Don’t feel bad about size, girth, foreskin (or lack thereof), how your testicles look, or the shape of your penis. Just find what makes you feel most good.

For trans* individuals masturbation can be tricky. Just remember this is YOUR genitalia. Having a vagina and vulva doesn’t make you a woman and having a penis does not make you a man. If it helps, think of your genitalia in the gendered terms you prefer. Your clitoris could be your penis or vice versa, and your anus could be your vagina. Do whatever makes you feel comfortable with. Don’t focus on how your body might not look like society’s predetermined standard. You (and your body) are whatever gender you identify with. This can also be important to understand if you’re an intersex individual.

For everyone: Get to know your genitalia. Get to know your body. Be comfortable with yourself. Don’t be too concerned with the orgasm, enjoy your time with yourself, don’t do anything that hurts, and find out what makes you turned on. Never feel bad or ashamed of what turns you on and don’t feel ashamed of masturbation.