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TW: Rape and incest, forced pregnancy
This Tuesday, the Colorado House Judiciary Committee will hear a bill that will ban all abortion and emergency contraception in Colorado, and make it a felony for a physician to perform an abortion.
Representative Humphrey’s bill (House Bill 1133) will deny survivors of rape or incest access to emergency contraception, and force them to give birth to their attacker’s child should they become pregnant as a result of these violent acts.
Forcing people to bear children that result from rape and incest goes too far, but Representative Humphrey doesn’t think it goes far enough. He wants to make sure any physician in Colorado who performs an abortion can be sentenced to 12 years in prison and a $750,000 fine.
We’ve seen attacks on reproductive health become law in states across the country over the past year, but don’t want them here in Colorado. This bill is an attempt to insert politicians into Coloradans personal, private health care decisions.
TELL THE STATE HOUSE JUDICIARY COMMITTEE TO VOTE NO ON HOUSE BILL 1133
Good News Everyone!
I hired someone to go through and archive all of the past posts and help me organize my FAQ. This brings up the question, what categories would you like to be able to have available so that you can just click and see all of the posts in that category? A couple I can think of off the top of my head:
Contraception and Birth Control
STI/STD prevention and Treatment
Boundaries and Consent
Disability and Sex
Abuse and Sexual Assault
Justice and Activism
Uncutting’s FAQ, part two: Foreskin restoration questions
(If you missed part one, on circumcision questions, you can find it here)
Q: You’re what-ing your WHAT?
A: That’s right, I’m restoring my foreskin! Modern foreskin restoration techniques have been practiced since the 1980s, and it’s estimated that the amount of people who have restored or are restoring is at least in the tens of thousands.
Q: But… why?
A: I don’t like being circumcised due to the numerous drawbacks and the lack of benefits. I elaborate on this here.
Q: How are you doing this?
A: Foreskin restoration is done through wearing devices that gently stretch the skin and gradually encourage skin expansion, and/or manual tugging exercises that do the same. I explain the process in more detail here.
Q: There’s no surgery involved?
A: Nope. Surgical foreskin restoration is actually quite rare, and the results are usually less-than-satisfying.
Q: Doesn’t it hurt?
A: Nope! Whether you wear a device or do manual exercises (or both), the key to foreskin restoration is *gentle* tugging, only to the point of feeling mild tension. Restoration should never truly hurt.
Q: Aren’t those devices uncomfortable?
A: I don’t think so, but it really depends on the device (there are about a dozen on the market) and your personal preferences. Personally, I find the devices that use straps around the leg to be uncomfortable, but that’s just me, as thousands of others are fine with those devices. Similarly, not everyone likes the strapless devices, but that’s what I’m comfortable with. And by comfortable, I mean, I really don’t even notice I’m wearing it after a few minutes.
Q: Are they visible under clothing?
A: Not unless you’re wearing something extremely thin or tight. See some pictures here.
Q: What are some examples of these devices?
A: Some of the most popular devices include the TLC Tugger, TLC-X, DTR, CAT II Q, Foreskin Natural Restorer, and ForeBalls. There are plenty of other devices and methods, and you can view a comparison chart of them here.
Q: Which do you use?
A: I started off with the standard TLC Tugger, but found that I personally didn’t like wearing devices that involved straps, so I later switched to the DTR. I also do plenty of manual tugging.
Q: How much do these devices cost?
A: When you factor in shipping, you can get one for as low as about $55 and as much as about $130. The price isn’t really indicative of quality, so don’t feel like you’re buying an inferior product by getting one of the cheaper ones. There’s also the possibility of making a homemade device, and and don’t forget you can restore manually, without a device!
Q: So about manual restoration. What is that like?
A: They’re little exercises that gently tug the penile skin. You do them for a few seconds, and then as many reps as you want, much like regular exercising. You can set aside time during the day to focus on them (i.e. one daily 15-minute session, or two 10-minute sessions every day), and/or you can just do them in little bursts throughout the day. I personally like to tug a little whenever I get dressed, go to the bathroom, or get a shower. For more information on manual tugging, I strongly recommend Restoring Tally’s guide.
Q: But doesn’t it hurt!? Isn’t it uncomfortable!?
A: I told you, they really don’t. Restoring should be painless. You may get a *little* strenuous during manual tugging, but not truly painful.
Q: What’s a retainer, as opposed to a device?
A: A retainer is something you wear to keep the skin over the glans (if you’ve reached the point where you can do that) when you’re not actively restoring, or using your penis for something else. Retaining is important because keeping skin over the glans is what promotes dekeratinization. Retainers are often made from household objects and are very cheap. You can read more about them here. Beware that some retainers are okay to sleep with, while others are NOT. Basically, if there’s a chance the retainer could slide down the penis, don’t sleep with it.
Q: I’ve never even heard of foreskin restoration, is this a common thing? How long have people been doing it?
A: The amount of people who have restored or are restoring their foreskin is estimated to be in the tens of thousands (based on sales figures, members of restoration forums, etc). Although some primitive forms of foreskin restoration existed in the ancient world as well as Nazi Europe, modern foreskin restoration originated in the early 1980s, and has been booming since the late 1990s with the proliferation of the Internet as well as the creation of various commercial restoration devices. For a more detailed timeline, see my post on the history of foreskin restoration.
Q: And it actually works?
A: Yep! You can find dozens if not hundreds of people’s progress blogs online (mainly on the Foreskin Restoration Network message board), and I happen to have a progress blog of my own as well, documenting through pictures and sometimes video how the skin is grown over time. And this skin growth is indeed beneficial- while it can’t restore all the lost nerve endings cut off with the original foreskin, it returns the penile skin’s mobility that makes sex and masturbation more pleasurable, and and after a while, it increases sensation in the glans and inner foreskin, which are no longer exposed 24/7.
Q: Can a person restore at any age?
A: Yes, though it’s recommended that devices that press down on the glans not be worn by people under 18, just to play it safe.
Q: How long have you been restoring?
A: I started restoring in the spring of 2010, so a little over two years at the time I’m writing this.
Q: Have you grown much skin?
A: Yep! My glans is now mostly-to-fully covered most of the time when I’m flaccid, particularly when I’m sitting down. If I’m standing (particularly walking) or laying down, it still has a tendency to slide back an uncover the glans every now and then, though. So I still have a long way to go.
Q: Have you regained any sensation/sensitivity?
A: A little so far, but most other restorers have gained even more than me by now. Part of that is due to the fact that I didn’t lose as much to begin with with my circumcision, as I was cut very loosely rather than tightly. Therefore, I had the benefit of mobile skin from the start- kind of like I had a head start on restoration. Now as far as glans sensitivity goes, regaining that requires a lot of consistent retaining when not actively restoring, and most importantly is overnight retaining. Otherwise, nocturnal erections will expose your glans to your clothing/sheets and make it harder for the glans to dekeratinize. However, I’m one of those people who seemingly don’t have much luck with retainers- they all tend to fall all of me fairly easily (unlike devices, which stay on me pretty well), so it’s been hard for me to keep up with retaining. So aside from a slight increase of sensitivity around my corona (rim of the glans), my sensitivity isn’t that much greater yet. But don’t let that discourage you! Like I said, most people have better luck retaining than I do, and usually regain more sensitivity when they’ve been restoring as long as I have.
Q: How long does foreskin restoration take?
A: It depends on a lot of factors, including how much skin you have to start out with, how much skin you want to end up with, what method(s) you use, how diligent you are in keeping up with it, and natural variation from person to person. I’d say an average time frame is three to seven years if you put in effort every day and stay consistent.
Q: *insert other question about restoration here*
A: I wrote a post clearing up plenty of common misconceptions about foreskin restoration, you may want to see if I address your question here.
That’s it for part two, if you have any other questions, feel free to ask!
This is the second or third time I’ve seen in a sex education curriculum 85% cited as the percentage chance of pregnancy from unprotected sex. Where did this percentage come from? From all medical and family planning resources I’ve come in…
And you’re not wrong, neither are the organizations that you’re citing from. Some studies will set different time frames and age groups in their evaluation. Small things like this can make a big impact on data.
I should have said that it is my opinion that curricula would benefit from using 85% instead of “about 90%” or other types of messaging. I’ve worked very closely with clinicians and it has been my experience that sharing the same message in the classroom and in the health center is the most beneficial for helping a person understand the likelihood pregnancy will occur if they have unprotected sex.
The weirdest thing to me is that looking at the statistics using contraception methods from both sources they are much more similar, just a couple points difference here and there. Also, both site it as being in one year so many people get pregnant. I’m just not sure where that discrepancy comes from. 85% makes sense if someone is currently ovulating, but I want to make sure that’s where it comes from. I’m going to have to try to research this more because I want to be as accurate as possible when I talk about pregnancy chance.