Frequently Asked Questions
The hymen myth:
The hymen as we think of it isn’t real. Most people’s hymens are just a mucus membrane that surrounds their vaginal opening. It doesn’t break or tare during penetration. For the most part virginity is a social construct and your vagina in no way changes after penetration. Gynecologists can’t even tell if you’ve had sex or not, unless you’re one of the few people whose hymens do stretch over the entire vagina or most of it. In these cases the hymen can cause problems and might need to be removed by a doctor.
The whole “blood and pain” thing you’ve been told about sex usually is because there wasn’t enough foreplay or lubrication involved in sex. Your first time shouldn’t hurt. Sex and penetration shouldn’t hurt. If it does, there’s something wrong.
“Popping the cherry” doesn’t happen. Feel free to finger yourself as much as you want.
Q: What does cis mean?
A: cis gender: anyone who identifies their gender as their assigned sex, a cis man identifies as male and is assigned the male sex, a cis woman identifies as female and is assigned the female sex. find out more information in the dictionary.
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