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Dictionary
Aesthetic Attraction: (es-ˈthe-tik attraction) Attraction to someone based on finding them attractive or aesthetically pleasing though you don’t necessarily want a sexual or romantic connection with them.
Ableism: (əb(ə)l-ism) prejudice or discrimination towards non able bodied or aneurotypical people.
Butch: usually used in the lesbian or queer community for a person with more mascuiline features or way of dress, also a gender identity for some.
CAFAB: (K-Fab) Coercively Assigned Female at birth, similar to FAAB, although it is just to be used by intersex people as it underlines the fact that this assignment was against their will
CAMAB: (K-Mab) Coercively Assigned Male at birth, similar to MAAB, although it is just to be used by intersex people as it underlines the fact that this assignment was against their will
cis gender: (sis gender) Anyone whose gender identity matches their designated sex. Whenever any baby is born the doctor will proclaim it’s sex. Sometimes that child’s gender identity isn’t the same as that proclamation, when it’s not they may identify as trans* if it does match up they are cis. Etymology: same as trans, Latin, you may have heard it in math or science classes. Also they’re both used in every day language with words like transatlantic or cisalpine. Cis means on the same side, or in science/math terms when groups lie on the same side of a given plane, meaning both their gender identity and designated sex/gender are the same.
cissexism: (sis-sexism) prejudice or discrimination towards trans*people (preferable to transphobia as -phobia words can be offensive and abelism)
Clitorodynia: (Clit-or-o-die-nia) Much like vulvadynia only the condition only affects the clitoris
Cumming/cum/come/coming: Can be used to either describe orgasm, ejaculation or ejaculate.
Cunnilingus: (Cun-i-lingus) Oral sex involving a “vulva”, eating out, going down
DFAB: (Dee-Fab) Designated Female at Birth
DMAB: (Dee-Mab) Designated Male at Birth
Ejaculation: the expelling of liquids from the genitals. This can occur in a penis or a vulva. With vulval ejaculation, true ejaculation is a secretion from the skene’s gland much like what the prostate produces to put in semen and it comes from the urethral opening. However, ejaculation can also refer to vaginal lubrication being expelled from the vagina.
Ejaculate: another name for either semen or that which is secreted from the skene’s gland, or vaginal lubrication.
FAAB: (Fab) Female Assigned at birth. This also should only be used by intersex individuals as only they have their sex assigned (sometimes through surgery)
Fellatio: (fə-ˈlā-shē-ˌō) Oral sex involving a “penis”; blow jobs, going down
Femme: used in the queer community, for more feminine features or style of dress, also a gender identity for some.
Fetish: (fe-tish) Something that is needed for sexual gratification or orgasm.
FTM: (Eff-Tee-Em) Female to male trans person, also referred to as trans man/male
Genderneutral pronouns: pronouns used either when you don’t know the gender of a person or where they prefer pronouns that aren’t gendered. Common ones are They/them or zie/hir.
Gender Roles: The social and behavioural norms for a certain gender. Ex: the male is the provider and the female cooks, cleans and raises children. Although we are starting to move past this in our society, gender roles can still be seen in society and popular media. Can especially be confusing and unhealthy in regards to non binary or non cis gender people.
GSM: (Gee-Ess-Em) Gender and Sexuality (sexual orientation) Minorities
heterosexism: (Hetero-sexism) prejudice or discrimination towards homosexual or queer people (preferable to homophobia as -phobia words can be offensive and abelism)
HRT: (ach-ar-tee) Hormone Replacement therapy, when someone is put on the hormone opposite of what is naturally the highest hormone in their body, IE going on estrogen when you are a person with more testosterone.
Intersex: a general term used for a variety of conditions in which a person is born with a reproductive or sexual anatomy that doesn’t seem to fit the typical definitions of female or male.
Kegels: (ˈkā-gəls) Exercises for the pelvic floor muscles. They can help treat Vaginismus and menstrual cramps as well as prostate pain and inflammation.
Kink: Something that is found arousing
LGBT*: (El-Gee-Bee-Tee plus) Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender. Can also refer to other gender and sexuality minorities
MAAB: (Mab) Male Assigned at birth This also should only be used by intersex individuals as only they have their sex assigned (sometimes through surgery)
Manual sex: any kind of sexual act involving hands stimulating the genitals. Also known as digital sex.
Monogamy: Technically the sate of being married to only one person, although it’s also used for meaning only being sexually and romantically with one person. Monoamory can also be used.
Monosexism: (mono-sexism) prejudice or descrimination of people who are attracted to more than one gender (preferable to biphobia as it is more inclusive and -phobia words can be offensive and abelism)
MTF: (Em-Tee-Ef) Male to female trans person, also referred to as trans woman/female
Non-monogamy: not practicing monogamy, can include friends with benefits, open relationships, swinging, or polyamory
Orgasm: a release after a build up of pleasure. This is a feeling. It can cause physiological responses like shaking, tightening of the muscles, moaning, quickness of breath or holding your breath, or ejaculation but really this varies so much from person to person there’s not really a way for a partner to tell if you have orgasmed.
PC: (Pee-See) Politically Correct
PinV sex: (Pee- in- Vee sex )Penis in Vagina sex
POC: (Pee-Oh-See) People of Color
Polyamory: being able to love and be in a relationship with more than one person at a time
Polygamy: the state of being married to more than one person
Queer: can be used as an umbrella term for gender and sexuality minorities. Can also be used as a synonym for multisexualities like bisexuality, pansexuality or polysexuality. Can also be a term for someone that feels no other labels fit them
Relationship Structure: Almost like an orientation, some people prefer certain relationship structures. This includes monogamy, non-monogamy and polyamory.
Riding: when a person is on top of another person during sex
Romantic Attraction: Attraction to someone based on the desire to be in a romantic relationship with them.
Sexual Attraction: Attraction to someone based on arousal or sexual desire
Smegma: (smeg-muh) secretions that get caught in folds of skin. It’s most commonly used for the white discharge like stuff found in and around foreskin but it also occurs under and around the hood of the clitoris.
SRS: (Ess-Ar-Ess) Sexual reassignment/realignment surgery. When someone goes through surgery to change body parts that socially are used to denote sex, top surgery being the removal or addition of breasts, bottom surgery being on the genitals to create either a penis or vagina.
Trans*: Anyone who does not identify with the gender they were assigned at birth. Could be any gender variant or trans person
Transgender: Person who does not identify with the gender they were assigned at birth but does usually identify as a binary gender (Trans man or Trans woman for example) Etymology: same as cis, Latin. Trans means across or in science/math terms when groups lie on opposite sides of a given plane, so one plane being their designated gender/sex, the other plane being their gender identity. (some non binary people do identify as transgender as well)
Transsexual: Basically the same as Transgender, this word is falling out of favour but if used usually use used to describe someone who is transitioning, going through hormones or surgery.
TW: (tee-Double You) Trigger warning
Vaginal Discharge: You vagina’s way of cleaning itself. Secreted from the vagina and cervix to get rid of dead cells and bacteria in the vagina.
Vaginal Ejaculation: secreted from skenes gland and is made up of the same thing secreted from the prostate found in penile ejaculation.
Vaginal lubrication: secreted from the Bartholin gland located on either side of the vagina and from the vagina itself during arousal.
Vaginismus: (Vag-in-is-mus) A medical disorder in which the muscles of the vagina clench upon penetration and make it very painful or impossible to be penetrated.
Vulva: external genitalia including the labias, clitoris, and openings of the vagina and urethra.
Vulvadynia: (Vulva-die-nia)A medical disorder in which the vulva or parts of the vulva hurt when touched or stimulate
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