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Sex Positive and Body Positive educational place. Includes information about different relationships, genders, sexuality, sexual preferences, safety precautions and everything else that could pertain in the education of sex. Accepting of all walks of life.
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i’m going to make some felt visual aids for gender and part of that includes objects that young children would come across that may or may not be gendered by society; ie dolls, cars, books, balls, dress up clothes, etc.

What are some other things young children come in contact with that they may gender?

One of the reasons I’ve not finished the LGBT+ student experience post yet is because I’ve had to go through everything my family has in storage.

Here’s a list of all of the medical and parenting books I’ve found. Can anyone tell me if they’re so out of date I shouldn’t keep them?

  • Parenting Teenagers by Don Dinkmeyer and Gary D McKay, 1990
  • Training the Body to Cure Itself, 1992
  • The Doctors Book of Home Remedies, 1990
  • The Holistic Health Handbook, 1978
  • Medical Terminology by Peggy S Stanfield, 1989
  • Folk Medicine by DC Jarvis, 1958
  • Encyclopedia of Natural Home Remedies by Mark Bricklin,1982
  • AHFS Drug Information, 1995
  • The Lippincott Manual of Nursing Practice, 1974
  • Nutrition Concepts and Controversies fourth edition, 1988
  • Psychiatric Nursing, by matheney and Topalis, 1965
  • Textbook of Pediatric Nursing, 1966
  • Fundamentals of nursing, 1964
  • Physicians’ Desk Reference, 1985
  • King Warrior Magician Lover Rediscovering the archetypes of the mature masculine by robert moore and douglas gillette
  • Chemistry, matter, and the universe by richard e dickerson, 1976
  • Science and the future, 1991
  • Student Study Guide to Chemistry for Changing Times Third Edition, 1980
  • Chemistry made simple, 1959
  • Medicine, Monopolies, and Malice by Dr Chester A Wilk, 1996

Are any of these worth keeping or should I just turn them into an art project?

I’m going to start testing some of the Our Whole Lives curriculum activities for kindergartners to first graders (ages 5-6) on a group of the kids I take care of on a regular basis. They’re age 3-4 so not quite in the target age range but I think they’ll understand the basics. The parts I’m going to be covering is the body, taking care of your body including the fact that your body is yours and you have to consent before others can touch it, and gender.

Would it be helpful or would y’all like it if I took video of my efforts and posted it so you can see some of the activities and songs for this age group and how the kids respond? I’m going to be editing the OWL curriculum to make sure that it’s gender neutral and intersectional. This would also help me get feedback about these things and my teaching skills. It’ll be an experiment as I’m not sure how well it’ll work out.

Yay or nay?

Submission: Trans Anthology About Inimacy and Sexuality

     I am looking to create and publish an anthology about the intersections of transness, intimacy, and bodies. The goal is to create a multifaceted framework through stories and community knowledge that can be a resource for trans people, as well as their sexual and/or romantic partners. Examples of navigating complex experiences of intimacy are an area that needs a stronger voice, as the predominant representation of sexuality is through a cisgender perspective. Trans people often lack the voices of shared experience they need to express and understand their own narrative of sexuality. If society is to ever take trans individuals seriously as people to form intimate relationships with, or if any trans person has ever felt a lack of guidance in developing new means of intimacy, then this kind of knowledge needs to be created and shared.

     Please submit a personal narrative, reflection/opinion, or dialogue/discussion.

     Some thematic suggestions for a submission are, though by no means limited to:

  • Language surrounding bodies, yours and others
  • Touch and sensation
  • Communication around needs
  • Social expectations
  • Sex and sex toys
  • Positive/Affirming experiences
  • Negative experiences
  • Major personal or shared breakthroughs, such as perspective or experience of intimacy

     Submissions should short, about 4-12 pages, though more or less is acceptable. People of all gender identities are encouraged to submit! I’m looking for a range of perspectives. Submissions will not be edited in their content, only their format. Please bear this in mind when you submit your piece.

     Email submissions by 09/01/2014 to anthsubmit@gmail.com

     Please include a little about yourself so that your writing can be contextualized, as well as how you would like to be credited, as each submission will feature the name of the author or else be listed as anonymous.

     I will be attempting to publish via Transgressive Press or Sotto Voce Press. Failing those, I will attempt other queer presses. Should I be unable to publish them in a traditional format, I will release the anthology for free via ebook on Amazon.  Sadly, not all of those who submit will make the final iteration of the anthology; however all contributors published will receive a free book or a link to the ebook. Any profits collected from this work will be put into a trans scholarship for students.

     A little about me: I am a non-binary Bay Area resident and on the cusp of finishing university. My future goals are to open a transitional housing non-profit for trans people and to be a sex educator, both of which I am actively working towards. In the spirit of education and trans activism, I am trying to put together this anthology. When I was going through my transition, examples of how to interact intimately with others and myself were hard to find. The information was out there, but buried or presented in an authoritative way sterilized of context. I struggled for over a year to find my own way, and only was able to after listening to others share their own experiences. I want to make a reference for people who are similarly struggling. I’ve wanted to contribute to the greater trans community in a meaningful way, something that wasn’t already happening. It occurred to me that many out there would benefit from such an anthology, so here I am attempting to make it real.

You can follow progress of the anthology and learn a little more about me at anthologyadventures.tumblr.com

Body shaming happens to everyone of every gender. I made some of the previous post gender neutral, but what are some comments or body shaming methods directed towards men? What about non binary people? Do trans women or trans men experience this differently than their cis counterparts? How does body shaming affect disabled people, people of different races? What other categories of people go through body shaming and what kinds of comments do they hear?


1. Saying Things Like, “She Would Be So Pretty If…” 
Have you ever uttered anything along the lines of, “But they have such a gorgeous face” or “they would be more beautiful if they put on a few pounds”? You are limiting your idea of beauty to a cultural stereotype. Beauty is not conditional. If you can’t say anything nice, maybe it’s time to learn how.
2. Judging Other People’s Clothes 
While it’s fine for you to choose clothes any way you want, nobody else is required to adhere to your style. The person wearing that outfit is, in fact, pulling it off, even if you think they’re too flat chested, big chested, short, tall, fat or thin. And fat people don’t have to confine themselves to dark colors and vertical stripes, no matter who prefers it. And spandex? It’s a right, not a privilege.
3. Making It an ‘Us vs. Them’ Thing 
The phrase “Real Women Have Curves” is highly problematic. Developed as a response to the tremendous body shaming that fat women face, it still amounts to doing the same thing in the opposite direction. The road to high self-esteem is probably not paved with hypocrisy. Equally problematic is the phrase “boyish figure” as if a lack of curves makes us somehow less womanly. The idea that there is only so much beauty, only so much self-esteem to go around is a lie. Real women come in all shapes and sizes, no curves required.
4. Avoiding the Word “Fat”
Dancing around the word fat is an insinuation that it’s so horrible that it can’t even be said. The only thing worse than calling fat people “big boned” or “fluffy” is using euphemisms that suggest body size indicates the state of our health or whether we take care of ourselves. As part of a resolution to end body shaming, try nixing phrases like “they look healthy,” or “they look like they are taking care of themselves,” and “they look like they are starving” when what you actually mean is a person is thin.
5. Making Up Body Parts 
We could all lead very full lives if we never heard the words cankles, muffin top, apple shaped, pear shaped or apple butt ever again. We are not food.
6. Congratulating People for Losing Weight 
You don’t know a person’s circumstances. Maybe they lost weight because of an illness. You also don’t know if they’ll gain the weight back (about 95 percent of people do), in which case earlier praise might feel like criticism. If someone points out that a person has lost weight, consider adding something like, “You’ve always been beautiful. I’m happy if you are happy.” But if a person doesn’t mention their weight loss, then you shouldn’t mention it either. Think of something else you can compliment.
7. Using Pretend Compliments 
“You’re really brave to wear that.” By the way, wearing a sleeveless top or bikini does not take bravery. “You’re not fat, you’re beautiful.” These things are not mutually exclusive — a person can be fat and beautiful. “You can afford to eat that, you’re thin.” You don’t know if someone has an eating disorder or something else; there is no need to comment on someone’s body or food intake. “You’re not that fat” or “You’re not fat, you workout,” need to be struck from your vocabulary. Suggesting that looking fat is a bad thing is also insulting.
8. Thinking of Women as Baby-Making Machines 
One of my readers mentioned that her gynecologist called her “good breeding stock.” Also awful: “baby making hips.” Worst of all is when people ask fat people when they are due. As has famously been said, unless you can see the baby crowning, do not assume that someone is pregnant. These comments can be doubly hurtful if the person doesn’t identify as a woman, or if they are not planning on having children or the thought of having children triggers an emotional response.
9. Sticking Your Nose in Other People’s Exercise Routines 
A subtle form of body shaming occurs when people make assumptions or suggestions about someone’s exercise habits based on their size. Don’t ask a fat person, “Have you tried walking?” Don’t tell a thin person, “You must spend all day in the gym.” I have had people at the gym congratulate me for starting a workout program when, in fact, I started working out at age 12 and never stopped. I had a thin friend who started a weight-lifting program and someone said to her, “Be careful, you don’t want to bulk up.” How about not completely over-stepping your boundaries and being rude and inappropriate?
10. Playing Dietitian 
If you have no idea how much a person eats or exercises, you shouldn’t tell them to eat less and move more or suggest they put more meat on their bones. (Even if you do know what they eat, don’t do it). How do you know they’re looking for nutritional advice from you or the newest weight-loss tip you saw on Dr. Oz?
Written by: Ragen Chastain

Body shaming happens to everyone of every gender. I made some of these gender neutral, but what are some comments or body shaming methods directed towards men? What about non binary people? Do trans women or trans men experience this differently than their cis counterparts? How does body shaming affect disabled people, people of different races? What other categories of people go through body shaming and what kinds of comments do they hear?

Why are there so few good resources for Designated Male at Birth Health? The most common problem of course is cisexism, almost all resources about general health and sexual health are targeting cis men. The second most common problem is, you guessed it, sexism.

I had someone suggest this website, SexualHealthMen, to me and at first it looked okay if very cisnormative. Then I got to the article "What is it that actually turns women on?"  and there’s this gem: “If you can think of her as a conquest, chase her and do things to win her heart, you will definitely turn her on.” NO. This is a huge generalization as well as being sexist and a part of rape culture and oppression of women.

Most other websites for cis men’s sexual health are very similar. Do you have any resources for sexual health for men (anyone who identifies as a man, including info for trans men), DMAB people (anyone designated the male sex at birth including those who don’t identify as men), or cis men? Do you have any good resources for sexual health for trans people? What about intersex people? Most resources I’ve seen target cis women which definitely can have their own flaws. What are some resources for everyone of every gender or designated sex?


We can’t know someone else’s circumstances and we shouldn’t make their decisions. I believe abortion should remain legal, and women should be able to get safe abortion care.
I will help build a culture of empathy, justice, and support for access to abortion care and for the 1 in 3 women who will have an abortion in her lifetime. I pledge to help protect access to safe abortion care in my community.

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Intersex Fact of the Week: Week 1


Intersex is NOT a synonym for nonbinary, nor can it be used as an identity for someone without a physical intersex condition. Even if an individual has surgery to end up with ambiguous genitalia, that individual is not intersex. Also, genitalia is only one potential intersex marker.

Hopefully I’ll be getting my post on LGBTQAI+/QUILTBAG+ youth done tomorrow. To tide you over, here’s my experience of my local LGBT summit. You had several workshops to choose from so I couldn’t see all of them unfortunately. Here’s the ones I did see:

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