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Abortion/Reproductive Health Access Resource in California
I saw your last post signal boosting the Abortion Assistance Blog and I just wanted to let you and your followers know about an organization I work for in the Bay Area that does similar work. We are called ACCESS Women’s Health Justice and we help women with any and every aspect of attaining proper health care. We have a healthline women can call and we mainly work with women who need help making appointments for abortions, figuring out medicare/medical, and providing transportation and housing for those who need it. Hopefully we will have our own Tumblr up and running soon, but until then, if you could let your followers know about our Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/accesswhj?ref=ts&fref=ts) that would be awesome!
Sorry for the long message! Stay awesome :)
FYSE: Awesome! Definitely signal boosting. Any time if followers have any organizations like this one they’d like to submit let me know. It’s always great to learn about different resources available.
*not everyone in need of an abortion identifies as women.
All of this presupposes that there is only one right way to look like and be a woman. And it’s infuriating. On the one hand, whenever I go out in public or post pictures online, a part of me is deathly afraid that I’ll be insulted or worse. I desperately want to be accepted as the woman I am. On the other hand, I hate that in order to feel safe, I’m expected to fit into the very narrow box that is labeled “woman.” Tips on how to pass always seem to say that you should avoid building muscle mass and avoid wearing clothes and makeup that are too costumey, that you should try to hide your shoulders and soften your features. Trans women are often told that if we want to pass, we have to try our hardest to be petite, soft, have just the right amount of femininity, and not stand out too much. But what if I want to be a different kind of woman? What if I want to look like Grace Jones or Kate Moennig? What if I want to look like Beth Ditto or Dolly Parton? They’re all cis women; don’t they pass?"
Meyllen Djneres (via muffinsandcouture)
The moral of “passing” discussions always seems to be:
If you get bashed it will be your fault.
It’s National Masturbation Month! To celebrate, we’ll be highlighting resources on the topic every Sunday in May. Today we’re featuring our Introduction to Sex Toys page. Check it out here! (via thecsph)
Remember, if it says “Novelty Use Only” use a condom!
I think a lot of problems that people come across in their sex lives have to do with the lack of breadth of what they’ve learned about sexuality. Detailed sex ed that I’ve encountered elsewhere is great, but it also tries to be exact about what happens in a certain situation, rather than emphasizing that ‘everyone is different’. I’ve seen so many posts, here and elsewhere, from people saying they ‘can’t get wet’, ‘can’t orgasm’, ‘can’t have multiple orgasms’, etc. Because folks learn that some people can have multiple orgasms, or feel pleasure from XYZ thing, they tend to think that that is everyone’s experience- so if it is not theirs, it’s a pathology. It helped ruin my last physical relationship that I was the only partner out of 7 that my partner had dated that didn’t orgasm, squirt, like the same fetishes or have the same concept of sexuality. He knew all about their kind of sexuality from his reading, but not that others could be different. If only he had instead learned that everyone is different, and that’s normal! And not in a superficial sort of way, but a manner in which differences are freely discussed and truly emphasized as good things. I wish we were more tolerant of other people’s different experiences.
This is why I talk about orientations based on gender, not genitals. Heterosexuality is the sexual attraction to people of a different gender, homosexuality is the sexual attraction to people of the same gender.