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Sex Positive and Body Positive educational place. Includes information about different relationships, genders, sexuality, sexual preferences, safety precautions and everything else that could pertain in the education of sex. Accepting of all walks of life.
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"asexuality is just the lack of a sex drive, or a really low one" uuhhh no. really, no. that is incorrect, you have been lied to, i’m sorry.

asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction to anyone. sex drive is your horny meter. you can still be horny and not be sexually attracted to people! similarly you can be sexually attracted to people and not be horny!! amaze

oh my god this actually clarifies so much thank you

So just to clarify, since this has always been hazy for me, an asexual person could get a boner and feel really horny but not towards anyone? Like they could masturbate but that’s all physical pleasure, it’s not lust for any particular person?

Yes. Sexual attraction is looking at someone and being like “is that a mirror in your pocket, because I can totally see myself in your pants”, whereas sex drive is brain hormones being like “time to mate your crotch is on fire everything suddenly looks like it could be used for your self pleasure” Asexuals don’t experience that sudden attack of “you’re so pretty let us bump uglies”, but can have a sex drive. Some asexuals don’t have a sex drive and may not masturbate or have sex, but that’s true for any orientation. Some asexuals are repulsed by sex, but again that’s true for any orientation.





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How Stigma Prevents Teens from Getting Sexual Health Info



Hello! My name is Iman and I’m writing a story for Sex, Etc. about how teens are prevented from getting the information and care they need when it comes to their sexual health and sexuality because of the stigma of talking about sex. Teens shouldn’t be made to feel ashamed when it comes to…

(via yoursexadvice)


The sale of sex toys and vibrators is banned in Alabama and Mississippi.

(Source: sheknows.com, via thebasicsofsex)

"We quickly located a firefighter costume for boys, complete with a bright red jacket, a traditional helmet and an axe. The girls’ version, on the other hand, is a skin-tight, short, shiny dress that’s surely flammable. It includes a fascinator (in lieu of a helmet) never before seen on a real firefighter.

The model on the package, who looks to be about the same age as my daughter, completes the outfit with heeled, calf-high boots — not ideal for running into burning buildings, or trick-or-treating for that matter. The costume is for children four to six and it’s one of several provocative costumes for the age group.

Even the pumpkin costume for preschoolers is sexy: it’s sleeveless and features a black bodice with an orange ribbon that laces up the front like a corset. I found the girls’ firefighter and the police officer costumes the most offensive, as they hung on the rack in stark contrast to the boys’ versions.

What kind of message do these costumes send to our girls? While the boys have costumes that look like the real thing, girls are expected to dress up in spoof ensembles, thus suggesting they can’t, or shouldn’t, do the real job. The costumes are not only “sexy,” they’re also sexist."

Halloween Costumes Are Sexualizing Our Youngest Trick-Or-Treaters

(via fucknosexistcostumes)

This isn’t just about halloween costumes. My incredibly petite 3 year old nephew is currently wearing a shirt for 7 year old girls. It fits him perfectly. On an actual 7 year old girl it’d be skin-tight. Even the most gender-neutral of girls clothing is sexualized and that’s not okay.

(via becauseiamawoman)

Sweden is on its way to gender equality and all it took was this 3-letter word  (via micdotcom)

(via outforhealth)




I hate to break this to you but there are lesbian relationships that involve penis because there are trans lesbians with penises. There are lesbian relationships where everyone has penises in them.

Sorry* to burst your transmisogynist bubble.

*Lol, I’m not sorry.

I love this post

I think you’re being a bit harsh. This post shouldn’t be just for transmysogynists. Don’t even bother with these assholes. This could’ve been a good informative posts for people that genuinely didn’t know this was possible. At the end, with the agressive remark, you might make these people defensive and actually turn into transmysogynistic assholes.

Just a thought.

And that’s all well and good, and I am all for educating people. If anyone has any questions about trans people and is confused there’s no such thing as a stupid question to me and you can ask me any question you want and I will answer it respectfully and to the fullest of my power.

That being said, every time I post ANYTHING about trans people, no matter how polite I am if you go and look at the comments (seriously, go look at the comments on this post or any of the posts I make or reblog on gender) there’s a hell of a lot of people like “nah you guys are stupid for thinking this”. This is a huge issue. And when it’s so ingrained in our culture that so much of lesbian culture is anti penis, so much of feminism is based around uteruses and vulvas and anti penis, saying “equating lesbianism with all vulvas and no penises is transmisogynist”, a true statement, and saying it in such a way that fully communicates that you don’t care about the comments this post will inevitably get invalidating trans women’s gender and sexuality, is honestly mild compared to the things you could say.

It’s a way to protect yourself. Because you know people will unfollow you if you say that lesbians can have penises. Because you know people will be rude to you. Because you know people will be cruel. And you know looking at the comments is a game of russian roulette with more bullets than empty spaces.

(Source: punlich)

Just so you know, the more comments I get on trans posts that basically boil down to “women=vaginas and men=penises and nothing you say will change my mind” the more trans articles I will post, the more angry I will get a cis people, and the more I will mutter to myself about how I should just turn FYSE into an all trans blog.

"Female job applicants with children are 44 percent less likely to be hired for a job than are childless women with similar qualifications. Fathers, by contrast, are 19 percent MORE likely to be hired than are comparably qualified men without children."
— "Getting a Job: Is there a Motherhood Penalty?" American Journal of Sociology, 2007 (via checkprivilege)

(via prochoicecanadian)

How to Be a Friend to Trans Folks Without Putting Your Foot in Your Mouth: A Short Guide for Cis People


I wrote this a couple of years ago. It’s still being reblogged, with 9,936 notes and counting. I’m kind of stunned by that, especially since I’m not satisfied with the way I wrote it. People do seem to like it, though… so what the hey, here it is again for those new-ish followers who haven’t seen it.


This goes out to all the cis people who, it’s quite obvious, want to help and befriend trans people, but who keep alienating and angering us instead. I’ve seen the befuddled looks on your faces when this happens, and I thought I’d try to clear a few things up for you. Let’s look at some common scenarios in which well-meaning cis people screw up with the whole pro-trans thing, and look at how some of these could go differently:

Scenario: You see someone whose gender you can’t determine just by looking at them. You want to make sure that you’re respectful of their identity.

Wrong Way to Ask: "Are you a man or a woman?"
Phrasing it this way will put the trans person on the defensive, and make them feel like you’re questioning and possibly even attacking their gender. It can also make them feel highly insecure about their gender presentation.

Right Way to Ask: "What pronouns do you prefer?"
This phrasing makes it clear that you intend to respect the person’s gender identity, regardless of what they look like. It shows an acknowledgment that the onus of respect is on you, and not their presentation or “passability”.

Scenario: You have just made an insensitive joke about trans people in the presence of your trans friend. You didn’t mean to hurt them, and you weren’t even thinking about them when you made the joke, but now the relationship is strained and you want to try to repair it.

Wrong Thing to Say: "Come on; it was just a joke! Lighten up!"
This tells your friend that you don’t take their pain seriously, and that you don’t think they should take it seriously either. It sends a message that trans lives and trans experiences matter less than your feelings of guilt and unease at being called out.

Right Thing to Say: "That was really thoughtless of me. I’ll try not to do it again."
Nine times out of ten, your friend will know you didn’t mean to hurt them. Most people don’t. But they need you to understand that you have hurt them. They need you to know this, not so you can stew in guilt, but so all involved can heal and move on.

Scenario: Your trans friend doesn’t “pass”. You think you can see what they’re doing wrong, and you want to help.

Wrong Thing to Do: List off all the things they’re doing “wrong”, and tell them how to fix them.
Trans people’s self-esteem is rocky enough as it is. By focusing on all the ways in which they look different from cis people, you are not only causing anxiety and dysphoria for the trans person, but also reinforcing the idea that trans people are “lesser” or “fake”. Besides, your friend may not even see “passing” as a desirable goal, in which case you are getting up in their face for no reason at all.

Right Thing to Do: Mind your own damn business.
If your friend wants you to help with their image, they will ask you. Regardless, respect their gender identity unconditionally.

Scenario: You’ve messed up a trans person’s name/pronouns. You didn’t mean to, but you can see the anguish on their face, and you want to make things right.

Wrong Thing to Say: "I’m sorry; it’s just that you’re still [previous name] to me!"
Of all the things you could possibly say to a trans person, this is among the most hurtful. It’s one thing to struggle to accept someone’s identity; it’s quite another to impose the wrong identity on that person in order to excuse your difficulty.

Right Thing to Say: "I’m sorry. I’ll keep trying."
Everyone makes mistakes, and everyone has difficulty adapting to a major change in another person. What’s important is that you try, and that you correct yourself when you mess up. That’s all anyone can reasonably ask; at the same time, it’s  the least you can do.

Scenario: You’re framing a health issue in terms of a specific gender (e.g., framing menstruation in terms of women), and a trans person points out that it isn’t necessarily unique to that gender and/or that they’re being left out of the discussion by your framing.

Wrong Response: "Well, BIOLOGICALLY speaking, it really does only affect [gender]."
Framing gender solely in terms of biology is always hurtful to trans people, no matter what the context. It’s even more hurtful when people who are strongly affected by an issue are deliberately erased in discussions of it.

Right Response: "Good point. I’ll try to remember it."
We’re all soaking in narratives that mash all the complexities of gender into two discrete categories, so it’s understandable that you’d initially think in those terms as well. But expanding your mind is never a bad thing, especially when it means including people who need/deserve to be included.

Scenario: You’ve known your trans friend/relative by one gender all your life, and now, all of a sudden, they’re asking you to call them by a different name and pronouns. This comes as a shock, and you feel like you don’t know them anymore; you feel like they’ve died and some new person has taken their place. Yet you want to stay in relationship with them, somehow.

Wrong Thing to Do: Categorically refuse to respect their request, insisting that it’s too difficult and hurtful for you.
Your trans friend/relative has taken a great risk by revealing their identity to you, and they’ve done so because they want and need to stay in relationship with you. For you to refuse to accept them, for you to prioritize your (relatively smaller) pain over theirs, is terribly cruel. Your pain is absolutely valid, but this is not the way to handle it.

Right Thing to Do: Work out your grief issues with a counselor and/or with cis friends, away from your friend/relative.
The person you thought existed is gone, most likely forever. This is going to be very tough for you to deal with, and you absolutely do need to deal with it. But the person who does exist, the person you’ve loved, will need your continuing love and support — and that person is not responsible for your healing. Do whatever you need to do to get to a place where you can relate to them respectfully and lovingly, and do it without placing additional burdens on them.

In short: respect us; care about us; treat us as equals; be willing to learn; be willing to grow. Once you get the hang of it, it’s really not as hard as it seems.

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