fuck yeah sex education

Sex Positive and Body Positive educational place. Includes information about different relationships, genders, sexuality, sexual preferences, safety precautions and everything else that could pertain in the education of sex. Accepting of all walks of life.
If you have any questions, feel free to ask on my ask site: http://fyseq.tumblr.com/ask, though check out http://fuckyeahsexeducation.tumblr.com/FAQ!

Happy Banned Books Week (September 21 - September 27, 2014)!


According to the ALA, the most frequently challenged books written by People of Color from 1990 - 1999 are (unfortunately they don’t have a PoC-specific list list for 2000 and onwards):

I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings by Maya Angelou
Reason for challenges: racism, homosexuality, sexually explicit, offensive language, unsuited to age group

The Color Purple by Alice Walker
Reason for challenges: sexually explicit, offensive language, violence

Kaffir Boy by Mark Mathabane
Reason for challenges: homosexuality, sexually explicit

The Bluest Eye by Toni Morrison
Reason for challenges: sexually explicit, offensive language

Fallen Angels by Walter Dean Myers
Reason for challenges: racism, offensive language, violence

Beloved by Toni Morrison
Reason for challenges: sexually explicit, violence

Native Son by Richard Wright
Reason for challenges: sexually explicit, offensive language, violence

The House of Spirits by Isabel Allende
Reason for challenges: sexually explicit, offensive language

Bless Me, Ultima by Rudolfo A. Anaya
Reason for challenges: sexually explicit, offensive language, occult/Satanism

Song of Solomon by Toni Morrison
Reason for challenges: racism, sexually explicit, offensive language

Always Running by Luis Rodriguez
Reason for challenges: sexually explicit, offensive language

2004 - 2014 Yearly Challenged/Banned Books lists can be found here

Special shout-out to:

The Bluest Eye, by Toni MorrisonThe Absolutely True Diary of a Part-Time Indian, by Sherman Alexie; and Bless Me Ultima, by Rudolfo Anaya for being on the list of top ten books banned/challenged in 2013 for collectively having/being: offensive language, sexually explicit, violence, drugs/alcohol/smoking, racism, occult/Satanism, religious viewpoint, and unsuited to age group! [source here]

Happy reading! Any banned or challenged books by authors of color that you think we should check out?

Also, why don’t they just rename it Toni Morrison Week, amIright? 

A lot of the sex education books for teens and pre-teens and children are on this list, including some I’ve reviewed for FYSE. I’m super passionate about banned books because fiction is where we get a lot of our education, especially about sex and life.

I'm getting an abortion on Tuesday. I'm fucking scared of the people who will be waiting for me outside. What should I do? This is such a random ask but after reading your blog I feel like you would give me a real answer. You don't have to if you want to.


I am sure there will be protesters there, and they WILL be holding signs probably with graphics that are disturbing. Just reassure yourself in knowing these are scare tactics, and 100% are embellished and false. If people are there, they will probably be pretty loud, so take an MP3 player with you to try and drown out the noise.

Any of my followers have any advice?

I would call the clinic first. Some clinics don’t get a lot of protesters, and some that do have volunteers that will walk you to and from the clinic. Also, there are people who work as abortion doulas, people trained to support you. You can see if there are any in your area. Other than that, hold your head high and ignore those (pardon my language) motherfuckers. Know that you are 1000% better than them.

Would it be okay to take birth control with anti-depressants and anti-psychotics?


There are a lot of birth control methods that would definitely work for you, depending on the actual medications that you’re taking.  

Combined oral birth control (estrogen & progesterone) has the most interactions with other medications out of all birth control.  Here is the list:

  • Anticonvulsants: including phenytoin, carbamazepine, barbiturates,primidone, topiramate, or oxcarbazepine.  People on these medications can use Depo Provera, or continue using birth control pills if they understand the risks involved.
    Anticonvulsants that do not reduce the efficacy of birth control include include gabapentinlamotriginelevetiracetam, and tiagabine.
  • Antibiotics: Rifampin is the only antibiotic proven to decrease the efficacy of birth control pills.  When taking any other antibiotic, there is no need for back up during that time.
  • Herbs: St. John’s Wort can decrease the effectiveness of birth control.
  • HIV medications: there are many drug interactions between HIV meds and birth control, but it is very important for people with HIV to have effective birth control when they are not planning pregnancy.  If you have HIV, speak with your healthcare provider to pick the birth control method that is perfect for you.
  • Others: There is a potential interaction between fluconazole (diflucan) and birth control, as well as grapefruit juice and birth control.  In these situations instead of decreasing the effectiveness, the interaction actually makes the levels of estrogen and progesterone in the blood higher.  It is unclear what effect this has.

I hope that helps!  If you’re considering birth control, check out this nifty flow-chart I made a while back:


My girlfriends tits are ugly from weightloss what exercises can she do?


What the fuck do you think is gunna happen when you lose weight from your chest.. they’re going to magically turn into perky rainbow titties?? Instead of coming to me for exercises you should exit her life she don’t need no man calling her tits ugly. You should be asking me how to fix that stank personality.

This is basically my response to anyone wanting to change their partner’s body.

"Young women on the reservation live their lives in anticipation of being raped. They talk about, ‘How will I survive my rape?’ as opposed to not even thinking about it. We shouldn’t have to live our lives that way."
— Juana Majel Dixon, 1st vice president of the National Congress of American Indians and co-chair of the NCAI Task Force on Violence Against Women (via nitanahkohe)

(via seriouslyamerica)

Hospital Birth Routine

(refer to this for general information about each stage of labor and what to do before you come to the hospital)

  • Many times you’ll be required to check in at triage. Make sure you know where to check in. Make sure your birth team knows as well.
  • See if you can fill out paperwork beforehand, but there will be plenty of questions that still need answering.
  • Make sure your support team is ready to answer questions. Make them a cheat sheet of all of your medical information (think about what information most paperwork asks, plus thing like if you’re allergic to any medications, if you’ve had high blood pressure during pregnancy, and any medications you’re on and when you took your last dose, as well as if there have been any complications during pregnancy or if you have any specific health conditions that affect pregnancy. Make sure they know how far apart contractions are now, how dilated you are, how your labor began, how long it’s been going on, and anything like that.
  • A doctor or nurse will ask you questions, listen to the baby’s heartbeat, hook you up to a monitor to get the pattern of baby’s heartbeat and the intensity of contractions.
  • They will also want to do a vaginal exam. Decide beforehand whether or not, and under what conditions, you want your vaginal exams. Vaginal exams will tell you how dilated you are. They can also tell if baby is positioned high or low, and if they can feel whether baby is in a good position.
  • Situations to avoid vaginal exams: if your waters have broken, if you don’t want to know how dilated you are, if exams are traumatic or uncomfortable to you. Your doctor or nurse can consider how intense the contractions appear, how long they last, how close together they are, how long you’ve been in labor, whether your waters have broken, how you are breathing and behaving, and other things to decide that you’re in labor and should be admitted to the hospital.
  • Some interventions in labor are offered because of the hospitals schedule, like fetal heart monitoring, or a nurse introducing themselves because of shift change. If you want to give birth naturally, to most interventions you can say “we’d like to wait an hour.” This includes:
  1. performing a vaginal exam
  2. hooking you up to an external fetal monitor (esp. for the duration of labor)
  3. breaking your waters
  4. give you pitocin or other medications to induce or hasten labor
  5. put an internal fetal monitor on baby
  6. give you pain relieving drugs like an epidural
  7. do a c-section
  • Remember to avoid accusing the staff of anything or questioning their expertise , just assert what you want. Asking for more time helps this process. You can say you’re doing well in this position and you’d like to wait an hour before checking in again. You can say you’re about to use the toilet and then try a shower. You can ask for another procedure to be done instead (consult this post for some ideas)
  • Sometimes the language medical staff uses can be confusing and alarming. It’s your only job to remain calm. You will know a true emergency if asking for another hour prompts the caregivers to say that they are trying to save your baby’s life or your own, or they don’t even answer but instead do what they need to do. Here are some ways medical staff will phrase something that lets you know it’s not an emergency:
  1. you should take advantage of an opportunity now because the doctor/anesthesiologist/nurse may not be available in an hour.
  2. this intervention isn’t necessary, but they would like to get more information. (you can ask, how else could we get more information)
  3. your caregiver takes time to argue that the suggested procedure is a good idea
  4. you are told you could wait, but they don’t advise it.

Done reading the Natural Birth in a Hospital book!

Updated my How to Make Labor Easier guide A LOT

Check out the pregnancy section of the FAQ for more posts (and more organization)

And vote on what book to read next:

  • The Birth Partner
  • The Mother of all pregnancy books
  • Breastfeeding Made Simple

If you’d like me to read a certain other birthing book and have some extra cash to send it to me my amazon doula list is here: http://amzn.com/w/3VQLSDID1O2ZO (I do get kindle on my phone and laptop so you can send me a kindle copy as those are usually less expensive) You can request other books that aren’t on there and I’ll just add it on.

If you have a copy of the book and would like to send it to me, you can message me here or at fysexeducation@gmail.com and we can set that up.

So, what would you like me to read next?

What you can do if your baby’s heartbeat is “non-reassuring”

Usually, this is caused by:

  • baby’s weight squeezing umbilical cord
  • baby’s position makes it hard for the machine to pick up the heart rate
  • baby is sleeping
  • your heart rate is being mistaken for, or heard in combination with, baby’s
  • you’ve eaten recently, which has caused a spike

What you can do:

  • Remember that most of the time, things are fine
  • focus on remaining calm. Focus on breathing, and try visualization. Relax your whole body
  • change positions, you may find that certain positions cause heart rate problems and changing to something else helps. All fours position allows baby to shift the most
  • Eat, drink some fruit juice, etc. to make sure baby is awake.
  • make sure your birth team can talk to the hospital staff and know to ask about the less invasive procedures. Also, make sure one can focus on supporting you and helping you with any of these tasks
  • look at this post for more hints on progressing labor

Less invasive procedures that can help:

  • Using a hand-held doppler (ultrasound to measure baby’s heart rate), so that you can move around or even get in the shower or bath. Also, the doppler may find the heartbeat in a different place where there may not be an interference.
  • Rubbing baby’s head. If baby’s heart rate responds well, everything’s okay.


This is a starter list I made with people in mind who A) Don’t have any makeup, and/or B) Have not had access to makeup before. Makeup is expensive, and unfortunately, even this list is beyond what people can comfortably spend. However, for the same price of a palette (most of which will set you back $50+), I’ve compiled a start-to-finish shopping list that includes everything from the makeup to the tools to the cleaning products.
Below the cut is a full list of products + links, a dupe list (most if not all of these items are dupes for high end brands like MAC, NARS, and Make Up For Ever), and a coupon code. Note that for this cart, I am using a current promotion on the E.L.F website; If you are not able to make this order before the promotion expires, don’t worry, because E.L.F has several similar sales every month!
[Also, a quick note: Everything on this list is from E.L.F, one of the few drugstore makeup brands that is 100% vegan and cruelty-free. They also have the highest concentration of high-end dupes. The site/their international sites ship to several countries, but in some cases, it would be less expensive to order through a local online drugstore beauty supplier/on ebay/have a friend in the US ship it to you. I’m not affiliated with E.L.F, I’m just a fan]

im pretty sure e.l.f brushes are not vegan, but only the brushes. all other products are vegan

Do Ask, Do Tell: High Levels of Acceptability by Patients of Routine Collection of Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity Data in Four Diverse American Community Health Centers


So this one’s pretty dorky, but you follow a queer sexual health blog so what did you expect?

Here’s what it boils down to:

  • Doctors want to know which patients are LGBT because it helps to track the health disparities queer people face, and if we have data then we can more clearly assess the problem(s). 
  • Doctors want to make sure people don’t freak out if they ask people these questions.
  • It was discovered that people don’t, in fact, freak out, and in fact accurately self-report their gender identities and sexual orientations and then go about whatever medical business they were there for. 

Or, as the article put it,

"Given current deliberations within national health care regulatory bodies and the government’s increased attention to LGBT health disparities, the finding that patients can and will answer SOGI questions has important implications for public policy. This study provides evidence that integrating SOGI data collection into the meaningful use requirements is both acceptable to diverse samples of patients, including heterosexuals, and feasible".

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