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100% DONE with this rhetoric

nooffswitch:

I am 100% done with the rhetoric of ” I’m pansexual/omnisexual/any thing but bisexual and my partners gender isn’t important to me because I am oh so enlightened”
And this is often said as some sort of statement of trans* solidarity.
Listen up people.
My gender is REALLY important to me. And if you want to have anything to do with me AT ALL, not even being partners, to be FRIENDS with me it had better be important to you. If you want to have sex with me my gender had better be EXTREMELY frelling important to you. Like number 2 on your list after ” are you a human, alive and consenting?”

You do NOT get to determine if my gender is important or a factor. If I were to find out a partner ” didn’t care about” my gender I would be very hurt.

Larger LGBT community you need to knock this off to. ESPECIALLY in graphics you peddle to cis hets AND the community.

DO NOT tell people their genders do not matter. It is not a compliment, OR a statement of solidarity.

As a genderqueer pansexual I HATE whenever other pansexuals or any version of multisexual say that “gender doesn’t matter” or they’re “genderblind” or “don’t see gender”.

My gender matters, see my gender, and respect my gender. It is certainly okay if your gender doesn’t matter to you but it’s important to recognize that gender is super important to other people.

so cut that out people.

I have a gender preference, it’s all genders.

"By and large, CPCs are not medical facilities, and most CPC volunteers who work directly with women are not medical professionals. Their main qualifications are a commitment to Christianity and anti-choice beliefs. Although CPCs historically have not employed medical staff, there is an emerging trend on the part of CPCs to gain validity by hiring part-time anti-choice medical providers and purchasing ultrasound equipment."

Crisis Pregnancy Centers: An Affront to Choice

CRISIS PREGNANCY CENTERS ARE NOT MEDICAL CLINICS

CRISIS PREGNANCY CENTERS ARE NOT MEDICAL CLINICS

CRISIS PREGNANCY CENTERS ARE NOT MEDICAL CLINICS

(via feminismandbubblebaths)

(Source: thisgingerisrad, via hellyeahscarleteen)

If you’d like to continue seeing children’s book reviews never fear!

There are several books at my local library I will be able to check out and review. However, there are many books I can’t get there. 

If you’d like to contribute to my collection of children’s books to review you can look at my Wishlist on Amazon some are less than a dollar if you buy them used.

If you have any books you’d like to recommend I review please feel free! If you have any books you’d like to review I’d be happy to reblog your review.

I Said No: A Children’s Book Review

TW: Talk of child sexual abuse
 
 
I was a little leery when I got “I Said No, A kid-to-kid guide to keeping private parts private”, because I was afraid that it may put too much pressure on the child. As we know, it’s not the responsibility of children or even adults to not get abused or molested, it’s the responsibility of people to not abuse or molest. That being said, children do need to be informed about these things so that they know the warning signs and know what behavior is not okay. It’s also important for parents to be informed of the warning signs so that they can better protect their children and also know to trust their children and believe them when they say something is going wrong or someone needs to be avoided.
As the prologue, written by Chip St. Clair, says, this book is “written to give the child in your life a set of guidelines for handling a variety of situations and the understanding that there is always a trustworthy adult to call upon for help.” I’ve talked to many people who were abused as children and they’ve all said the same thing, that either a good community that understood and helped them made the difference or that things would have been different if they had gotten that support. The preface by Sandra L. Caron goes on to say, “this book is intended to teach children how to recognize people who might potentially be dangerous without discouraging normal exploration.” I think this is incredibly important as some discussions I’ve heard about this can make it seem like certain parts of the body are gross or need to be kept hidden or that sexuality is bad. We need to put the emphasis on consent. There is nothing wrong with bodies or sexuality, there is something wrong with someone touching you without your consent. The writers, Zack and Kimberly King, explain that it’s best to read this book to your children in sections and discuss each section in detail before going on to the next. This is a great suggestion as your child may have questions or you may have things to add to the subject. Each subject comes with some prompts for the parent and child to talk about.
The first section identifies what private parts are. Here we see the old adage basically that your private parts are what’s under your bathing suit. Although that’s not exactly ideal it goes on to prompt the parent and child to talk about different names for private parts. It then goes on to say that curiosity is normal and encourages the child to talk to their parents about that curiosity. It talks about who may touch your privates, that parents change your diapers when your little, help give you baths, and help help you wipe when you’re learning to potty. Also doctors may need to touch you in certain places, but it emphasizes that a parent should be there to make sure things are okay.
It then goes on to talk about green flags and red flags. Green flag people are people allowed to touch certain body parts, parents and doctors are some, and it encourages you to talk about others. Red flags go up when anything makes the child feel upset, uncomfortable, lonely, sad, angry, scared, yucky, and in danger. If anyone wants to see or touch private parts or if you feel like something isn’t right you put up a red flag. It also talks about bribes. If someone gives you something for a treat, that’s okay (although I think it should state to ask parents if it’s a stranger or neighbor) but if anyone wants to exchange it for seeing or touching your private area that’s a bribe and you shouldn’t except it. I think it should be more broad and not solely about touching “private parts”, but it says to talk about your children about bribes and you could add on to it if you want.  It does make sure to state that this goes for anyone, even family members or friends although I think it should also mention parents and doctors as even they can abuse a child. It also makes sure to say that asking to keep secrets is also a red flag, as many abused children are told that their abuse must remain a secret. It then goes through certain instances that are red flags and says to say no and tell a parent or teacher and leave the situation if you can. 
The book then goes on to talk about threats. If someone says “no one will believe you” or “I’ll never be your friend again” if you say no then that is a threat and a lie. It states if you keep  the secret that they will get away with it and may hurt you again or hurt someone else. You should “wait until you are alone with a trusted adult, then be brave and tell that person about it.” even if you are embarrassed. It makes sure to state it is never your fault. It then encourages discussion with saying to think of examples of red flag situations, bribes, and threats. It then tells the story of one of the authors (the main author’s son) when another child put him in a red flag situation and what he did.
It then goes on to discuss what you should do if you can’t trust your parent or caregiver and other people you can talk to (like police). The main thing is to tell someone, even if you’re scared or don’t think they’ll believe you. It states that the scariest red flag is if your parent or caregiver tries to touch you and to think of all the people in your life who you really trust. To tell them, and keep telling people until someone believes you. If no one believes you it says to get somewhere you feel safest and to call 911. I’m really glad it covers this, and sometimes books about abuse neglect to talk about this kind of abuse and it’s really sad.
It’s not a perfect book, it just focuses on “private parts” and not other types of abuse but it’s such a complicated subject I understand that. I think more emphasis should be put on that no matter the situation if you have a trusted caregiver you should call them immediately, even if you’re at a friend’s house or school. This is something I was taught as a child and it helped me immensely. It’s definitely a good starting point for a discussion. 

Can the Gamification of Female Masturbation Remove Its Social Stigma?

I was wondering what your thoughts on this were?

FYSE: I think the animation is cute, and it is a cute idea. I’m a huge supporter of video games being used more often as a teaching tool, I think it’d be really great to have a game where you can choose certain safer sex methods and with probabilities see if your character becomes pregnant or gets an STI and it’d show you how to go to the doctor and get tested or get a pelvic exam and all that so I definitely like the idea of making a game out of masturbation as well.

Of course this is incredibly cissexist using feminine pronouns and calling it female masturbation. I definitely think we can use media to reduce stigma, even just talking about it in tv shows or in music would help. 

I guess I’d have to play the game or see more about it to actually do a critique.

A new youtube on Sex Education!

Sexplanations is a new series produced by Hank Green and hosted by Dr. Lindsey Doc.

I’m in love with what I’ve seen so far. Lindsey really seems to love her job, be very knowledgeable and in her intro video she tells one of my favorite jokes and reveals she is a huge Firefly fan.

The best news of all? HER VIDEOS ARE COMPLETELY GENDER NEUTRAL.

Y’all know how difficult it is to find videos that are completely gender neutral.

For once, I don’t have anything to add or correct about these sex education videos.

I’m really excited and hope it turns out as good as it looks like it will.

transstudent:

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Calling all youth in Northwest Arkansas!

nwa-gsa:

Are you between the ages of 12 and 25?

Are you Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, Asexual, Intersex, Pansexual, Polysexual, Omnisexual, Grey-A, Demisexual, Genderqueer, Neutrois, Questioning, or any of the many many identities out there who are forced to live life as second class citizens because we live in the bible belt and there’s nothing we can do about it?

Do you want to support those of us who go through oppression in our day to day lives?

Do you want a place where you can feel safe, where you know people will listen to you, won’t judge you for your gender/sex, or who you’re attracted and not attracted to?

Are you tired of schools that refuse to let you have a GSA or who in other ways are outright bigots towards you?

This is the tumblr for you.

Together, we’re going to create a group where we can meet and support each other, have fun, organize events, talk, and work towards making northwest Arkansas a more supportive place.

I’ll keep you updated as I talk to various places about hosting our support group. If you’re interested in helping in any way let us know.

Please if you are in any way interested and are in the Northwest Arkansas area join this tumblr so we have something to show people how important this support group is and that it needs to happen.

So I created a new tumblr and have a new pet project.

I recently did a GSA workshop for teens at my church and their experiences with their schools horrified me. Principals being openly homophobic and transphobic, teachers being too afraid to lose their jobs that they won’t help make an LGBT+ support club, and many other horrible experiences. I realized I had to do something so I’m in the process of talking to people about creating a support group for LGBT+ youth and their supporters for anyone in the northwest arkansas region. It’ll offer support, a safe place, a network, as well as just a place to have fun and socialize. I’m also hoping that we can help advocate for more schools in this area to become more LGBT+ friendly.

Please spread this around, talk to your friends, whatever you can so that young people in the northwest arkansas area can join the group and get updates about this process and can help us make a great group that will provide some much needed community for us.

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